Why Are You Not Getting New Matches on Tinder?

Tinder's own answer is that making a connection takes time and is not always instant or constant, so a quiet week does not mean something is broken. When the quiet goes on, Tinder suggests refreshing your photos and what you have written, turning on Smart Photos so your most-Liked photo always leads, and connecting your Spotify account.

Tinder is candid about this on its help page for match problems. New connections come in unevenly, and there will be days when nothing arrives at all.

Men tend to check the app every hour, see nothing for three days, and decide they have been hidden or banned. Usually they have not. Give it a fair stretch before you change anything.

When you do change something, change one thing. The profile coaching method is built on that rule: swap a single photo at a time, keep everything else the same, and keep a count of likes and matches for each version. It is the only way to know which change did the work.

Tinder's first suggestion is fresh photos, and a dating coach would agree. He calls photos the biggest single mistake men make in online dating.

Fresh does not mean more selfies. Look for recent, candid shots of you on your own, in daylight, doing something you would really be doing on a Saturday. The One Percent guides say photos that look like a friend took them on a phone tend to do better than polished shoots, because they look like a real life rather than a production.

If your newest photo is several years old, that alone may be the answer. My advice is to get new photos taken every few years so they stay current. He also says not to wait until you are in perfect shape. Take the best photos you can now, and take more later.

Tinder's tip covers your bio as well as your photos. Most men's bios read like a short CV: job, height, a list of hobbies.

My rule is show, do not tell. "Adventurous and funny" does nothing, because anyone can type it. One specific line does more. The half-marathon you signed up for after one too many beers, the Sunday roast you cook for your brother's family. Specifics give her something to picture and something to ask about.

He also warns against leading with star signs, religion or politics. They rarely make anyone like you, and they quickly give some women a reason not to.

Smart Photos is a setting you turn on so that your most-Liked photo is always the first one women see. Tinder lists it among its tips for a slow stretch.

It is worth switching on if you are not sure which photo should lead. Just remember that it can only choose from what you give it. If every photo in the set is weak, Smart Photos will put the least weak one at the front.

Tinder's third suggestion is linking your Spotify account to your profile. On its own it will not transform anything. What it gives you is one more real detail about you, and real details are what women start conversations with.

If she opens by teasing your music, you have an easy, fun first exchange. Play along rather than defending your taste.

The part Tinder does not spell out is your own swiping. Liking every face that loads tells you nothing about which women respond to you. It also fills your list with women you would never actually meet.

Like the women you would genuinely take for a drink, then judge your results against that group. My advice is to fill the top of the funnel first. Get enough of the right women seeing and liking you, and everything after that has something to work with.

New matches are only half of it. Send a first message within a day or so, and make it about her rather than a plain hello. My best openers give her something to react to, often a light guess about who she is that she can confirm or deny.

Then move toward a plan. A match that sits for a week with no message is a match you have let slip away.