The Complete Dating System

Meet the women you want. Know how to take it further.

Learn the complete skillset for approaching, creating attraction, flirting, texting, dating, and building relationships, inside one step-by-step online course for men.

Seven complete modules take you from the fundamentals through daygame, nightgame, online dating, dates, social circle, and relationships.

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What if you actually knew what to do?

You see a woman you want to meet.

You know how to walk over and start the conversation.

You know how to keep it from turning into a boring interview.

You know how to flirt and make your interest clear without forcing it.

You know when to get her number, and what to text afterward.

You know how to turn the conversation into a date.

You know how to handle the date once you're actually sitting with her.

And if you meet someone you genuinely want to keep, you know how to navigate the relationship that comes next.

That's the skillset the Complete Dating System is built to teach you.

Not another collection of dating tips. A complete course covering the process from meeting her to building the dating life or relationship you actually want.

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How many more times are you going to get stuck at the same point?

You see someone you want to meet, and hesitate until the opportunity is gone.
You start the conversation, but can't get beyond polite questions.
You get the number, but the texts go nowhere.
You get the date, but spend the evening hoping something will happen instead of knowing how to move it forward.

Taking action matters. But repeating the same approach without understanding what needs to change can leave you stuck.

Another opener won't fix a conversation you don't know how to lead.
A better profile won't teach you what to do once you get the date.
And getting a girlfriend doesn't automatically teach you how to build a good relationship.

These are skills. You can learn them.

The Complete Dating System brings them together so you're not left figuring out the next part only after it costs you another opportunity.

He finally understood what to do after the approach.

I joined convinced I needed to get better at approaching. Once I worked through the first few modules, I realized I was actually getting plenty of good interactions and then wasting them afterward. My texting was the real bottleneck. Seeing the whole process made that obvious.

Nate R.Denver, USA

Matthew Stevens, co-founder and head coach

From Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach

I learned this the slow way. You shouldn't have to.

When I started, I had no skills with women. No coach. No mentor.

So I went out and approached.

I failed over 4,000 approaches before I could get dates consistently. One month, I averaged more than 20,000 steps a day and got zero dates.

And when I finally started getting dates, I discovered something else:

Getting her to meet you is only one part of it.

I'd have a week full of first dates and not get a second one.

When I got past that, I still had to learn how to keep a connection going.

Every time I solved one problem, the next one showed up.

I filled notebooks. Recorded myself. Studied confidence, attraction, and communication. Tried things, got rejected, and went back out.

The effort was there.

For a long time, the understanding wasn't.

That's what I wanted to change with the Complete Dating System.

Not just teach you how to say hello and leave you wondering what comes next.

Teach you the skills that connect the approach, the attraction, the messages, the date, and the relationship.

You still have to use what you learn.

But you don't have to spend years discovering, one painful mistake at a time, which skills you were missing.

That's the course we built.
Best,MatthewCo-Founder & Head Coach

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The Complete Dating System

Our complete dating course for men, built from everything we teach across meeting women, attraction, texting, online dating, dates, social circle, and relationships.

Inside, you get 179 lessons across seven complete modules, 10 practical field playbooks, Steal My Lines, and any lesson we add to these seven modules later.

Whether you're starting from zero or already getting results but know there are holes in your game, you can work through the entire system from Fundamentals to Relationships, or go directly to the area you're trying to improve.

One course. One purchase.

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The whole system in one course: seven modules, from the fundamentals to a real relationship.

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Daygame

Approach her in daylight

She passes you on the street, in a cafe, or in a shop, and you get one split second to do something. Learn to get her attention, say hi, keep it moving, and leave with a number when it is there.

Segment 08

Before you say hello

Set the first moment up well: your pace, the angle you choose, and the simple read that tells you whether to start or keep walking.

01Getting out of your own spotlight2:50 read
02The first few seconds2:40 read
03Where to stand, how to walk3:20 read
04Reading the first glance2:30 read

Segment 09

Starting in the right style

Choose a direct, situational, or softer start based on the street, cafe, shop, or stop you are actually in.

Inside the course

Take a look at what you'll actually learn.

Explore a lesson, see how the material is explained, and look inside the practical guides included with your course.

From a lesson

Fundamentals of Game · Segment 01

Why basics beat clever tactics

3:00 read

There's a trap a lot of guys fall into. They think if they just memorize the right line, or understand some psychology trick, or have some clever move, then it all happens automatically.

That's not how it works.

Attraction isn't magic. It comes from a bunch of basic things stacking together. Good grooming. Posture. Being able to actually talk to someone. Not being weird on a date. Moving forward without pushing. Knowing when to leave.

None of that is clever. None of it is a secret. It's all just basics.

Here's what happens with guys who chase clever instead of basics. They memorize a line. It works once. They feel smart. Then it fails ten times because they never learned how to read a room or actually connect. They watch a video on body language, stand up straighter, and nothing changes because they're still wearing clothes that don't fit. They learn some psychological trick and it backfires because the person they're talking to just wants a normal conversation.

Clever doesn't scale. Basics do.

From a playbook

Approach Blueprint · The six moves

The six moves

3:30 read

These six actions take you from standing still to making a respectful approach. Use them in order, then repeat the set at a real cafe, shop, or social place.

1Practice With Low Stakes. Go to a cafe, shop, or lobby and greet five people. Say, "Hi, how's your day going?" Then keep walking after each person answers.
2Choose Within Three Seconds. When you see a woman who is not busy, say, "I will walk over now." Start walking within three seconds of saying it.
3Put Away Your Phone. Before you walk over, put your phone in your pocket. Keep both hands free, face her, and stop at a polite distance.
4Use A Plain Opener. Say, "Hi, I'm [your name]. I wanted to come say hi." Use this line instead of searching for a clever speech.
5Ask One Simple Question. After she answers your hello, ask, "What are you up to today?" Listen to her reply without planning your next sentence.
6Exit With Good Manners. If she gives short answers or says no, say, "No problem. Have a good day." Step back, turn away, and return to what you were doing.

How the course is taught

Lessons: 179 written lessons in 43 sections. Each one teaches one thing and shows its reading time, a few minutes.
Practice drills: Fundamentals gives you drills to go and do, like the 30-second hello, and every playbook ends with a two-week drill and a checklist.
Playbooks: Ten guides, each built the same way: why you get stuck, six moves, what to say, then the two-week drill.
Steal My Lines: Example lines for every step: first messages, replies that keep it going, and the move to a plan.
43+ hours: The listed length of the six skill modules, Daygame through Relationships, added together from when each was sold as its own course.

Preview the first Fundamentals section

He could finally see the moments coaches talk about

A lot of dating advice sounds obvious until you actually have to recognize it while it's happening. Seeing interactions broken down made a huge difference. I could finally see the moments coaches were talking about instead of just memorizing another rule and hoping I noticed it next time.

Marcus D.Toronto, Canada

Everything you need, from the first approach to the relationship

Start with the fundamentals. Then work through the six areas that determine what happens from the moment you meet her to the relationship you eventually build.

Module 01 · Fundamentals of Game

Stop guessing what makes an interaction work.

Learn the foundations behind approaching, confidence, presentation, conversation, texting, and dates, so you understand what you're trying to do instead of collecting techniques you don't know how to use.

Recognize where things are breaking down and build from a stronger starting point.

30 lessons7 sections

You'll learn

Why approach anxiety is normal, and why action comes before confidence
The 30-second hello you can practice anywhere
Style and first impressions, with a 10-minute style audit
Keep a conversation from becoming an interview, and make what she says lead somewhere more interesting.
The basic structure from meeting her to the number, the text, and the date
How to diagnose where your dating life is breaking down

Module 02 · Daygame

Stop watching women you want to meet walk out of your life.

Learn how to approach during everyday life, start naturally, keep her engaged, and recognize when there is an opportunity to exchange numbers or meet again.

From the hesitation before hello to what you do after she responds, this module takes you through the interaction.

17 lessons4 sections

You'll learn

Getting through approach hesitation
Starting conversations naturally
What to do immediately after the opener
Keeping the interaction moving
Showing interest with a clear compliment
Getting the number
Turning daytime interactions into dates

Module 03 · Nightgame

Go out knowing how to create an opportunity, not just hoping one happens.

Learn to start conversations in bars and clubs, handle groups, flirt, read the interaction, and move things forward while the night still has momentum.

Know what to do with the room, the conversation, and the opportunities in front of you.

21 lessons5 sections

You'll learn

Walk into the night ready to meet women, not spend the first hour trying to get yourself into the right mood.
Going out alone vs. with a friend
Starting directly at night, or from the situation
Opening a mixed group and keeping the group comfortable
Banter, and reading body language at the bar
The graceful move aside, and changing venues cleanly
Same-night logistics and numbers that hold

Module 04 · Online Dating

Build a profile that gets attention, and know what to do with the match.

Learn to choose stronger photos, write a more compelling profile, start conversations, and move promising matches toward dates.

Stop treating photos, prompts, and texting as unrelated problems.

32 lessons6 sections

You'll learn

The four jobs of your lead photo
Which photos to remove first, with a full photo audit
Bio templates for Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, and Raya
First messages on Hinge prompts and new matches
Keeping the conversation alive without the repeated-question trap
When to suggest a plan, and a low-pressure venue to suggest
What to do when a match goes quiet

Module 05 · Dates

Getting her to show up is only the beginning.

Learn how to choose the setting, build connection, flirt, recognize comfort and interest, and move a good date forward.

Work through the moments that can leave an otherwise promising evening feeling friendly, uncertain, or unfinished.

25 lessons6 sections

You'll learn

How your choice of venue and seating can make a date feel more natural, or more like a job interview.
First-date venues, and what to do when she suggests the spot
The opening 15 minutes, and comfort with quiet
Reading comfort, natural contact, and the first kiss
The second setting and a clear invite home
Short same-day dates
Ending the night well

Module 06 · Social Circle

Create more opportunities through the life you already live.

Learn to host, introduce people, move through groups, and build a social life that brings you into contact with more women.

Make meeting people part of your normal week, not something that only happens when you open an app or force yourself to approach.

24 lessons7 sections

You'll learn

Why hosting changes your week, and your first real event
The simple invite loop, and the first invite people can say yes to
Get introduced to new people without the awkward pause where nobody knows what to say.
Dating inside the circle while keeping the group easy
Arriving at parties and reading the room in 90 seconds
Moving between groups, and leaving cleanly

Module 07 · Relationships

Know what to do after you find someone worth choosing.

Learn to navigate exclusivity, communication, conflict, jealousy, and the changes that happen as a relationship develops.

The course does not stop at getting a number or a first date. It covers what comes afterward, too.

30 lessons8 sections

You'll learn

What changes after commitment, and what makes someone stay
The first 90 days and the exclusivity conversation
De-escalating conflict without disappearing, and repair afterward
What changes after the early excitement, and how to keep attraction mutual as the relationship develops.
Jealousy, and reassurance that stays honest
Reading an ending early, and ending it with respect

179 lessons: see exactly what you're getting

Expand the complete curriculum43 sections · 179 lessons▾

01 Fundamentals of Game

7 sections, 30 lessons

The map before the focus
1. What this course is for
2. How to use it (don't binge)
3. The four areas at a glance
4. Why basics beat clever tactics
Confidence through action
1. Why approach anxiety is normal
2. The real cost of staying on the sidelines
3. Action comes before confidence
4. Make the first approach tiny
5. What rejection actually is
6. Turning going out into a habit
Getting comfortable meeting people
1. Social practice before romantic pressure
2. The 30-second hello practice
3. A simple start for any room
4. Leaving cleanly when there's no conversation
Style and first-impression basics
1. Readable beats impressive
2. The five obvious problems
3. A 10-minute style audit
4. A 10-minute profile audit
Conversation and texting basics
1. Ask one real thing at a time
2. Callbacks instead of question lists
3. When to move toward a plan
4. What to text the same night
Dates without overcomplication
1. The beginner venue rule
2. What to ask in the first 15
3. When to add a lighter moment
4. Ending the date cleanly
Your first thirty days
1. The tiny daily practice
2. Debrief without turning it into a story
3. The 14-day check-in
4. Choosing the next focus

02 Daygame

4 sections, 17 lessons

Before you say hello
1. Getting out of your own spotlight
2. The first few seconds
3. Where to stand, how to walk
4. Reading the first glance
Starting in the right style
1. Choosing direct or situational
2. Starting with a clear compliment
3. Starting from the situation
4. Starting on the street
5. Starting in cafes and shops
The first minute
1. Giving the conversation a reason
2. Guiding without rushing
3. The natural pivot
4. Continuing when the moment is busy
Choosing the next step
1. Reading which transition fits
2. Exchanging numbers that lead to dates
3. The instant-date pivot
4. The walk-along transition

03 Nightgame

5 sections, 21 lessons

Preparation
1. The state stack at a glance
2. Body and breath before you leave
3. Picking the room
4. Going alone vs. with a friend
Starting the conversation
1. The first three seconds
2. Starting directly at night
3. Starting from the situation
4. Opening a mixed group
5. Recovery when the open lands flat
Building rapport and tension
1. The first real read
2. Banter on the floor
3. Reading the room while you talk
4. Reading body language at the bar
Isolation and the move
1. Reading the friend dynamic
2. Keeping the group comfortable
3. The graceful move aside
4. Handling a venue change cleanly
Next steps
1. Reading the transition window
2. Same-night logistics
3. Exchanging numbers that hold
4. The follow-up before the night goes cold

04 Online Dating

6 sections, 32 lessons

The first read
1. Why the main photo carries the first read
2. The four jobs of the lead photo
3. The secondary set: context before style
4. Photo 2: lifestyle context
5. Photo 3: social and group context
6. Photo 4: movement and presence
7. Photos to remove first
8. Photo audit walkthrough
The bio signal
1. The compression principle
2. Three voices that work
3. Three bio styles that fall flat
4. Hinge bio template
5. Bumble + Tinder bio template
6. Raya + niche app bios
Messages that earn a reply
1. First messages on Hinge prompts
2. Starting conversations with new matches
3. Following up after an unanswered first message
4. When to stop following up
Keep the conversation alive
1. Setting a natural rhythm
2. Light back-and-forth
3. Avoiding the repeated-question trap
4. When to add a lighter moment
5. When the conversation goes quiet for 24+ hours
Move from match to date
1. When to suggest a plan
2. Selecting a low-pressure venue
3. Framing the invitation clearly
4. Confirming day-of
5. Handling a day-of cancellation
Stalls and resets
1. The clean pause
2. A simple reset after a quiet stretch
3. When the reset gets a reply
4. When to stop trying to revive it

05 Dates

6 sections, 25 lessons

The setting
1. The setting check
2. Side-by-side vs. face-to-face
3. First-date venues by city
4. When she suggests the spot
Conversation rhythm
1. The opening 15 minutes
2. Sharing without performing
3. Comfort with quiet
4. Questions that make the room smaller
Reading connection
1. Reading comfort and response
2. Natural contact
3. The hand-to-hand check
4. Eye contact and pauses
5. The first kiss, clearly
Extending the date
1. Reading transition cues
2. The second setting
3. A clear invite home
4. Ending the night well
Short same-day dates
1. Why short same-day plans can work
2. Reading mutual timing
3. A clean low-pressure invite
4. Reading the natural ending
Private-setting comfort
1. Why the venue change matters
2. A clear reason to continue
3. The doorway moment
4. Slowing down without making it awkward

06 Social Circle

7 sections, 24 lessons

Become a better host
1. Why hosting changes your week
2. Host vs. plus-one, what changes
3. Choosing the right gathering
4. Your first real event
Build the guest list
1. The simple invite loop
2. The first invite people can say yes to
3. The first three events
4. When the room is quieter than planned
Warm introductions
1. The useful handoff sentence
2. Setting context before the intro
3. Following up without forcing it
Dating inside the circle
1. A low-pressure one-on-one
2. A clear ask inside the circle
3. Keeping the group easy afterward
Arrive well at parties
1. Choosing who to arrive with
2. Timing your arrival
3. Stepping into the room
Move through the room
1. Reading the room in 90 seconds
2. Starting with someone new
3. Moving between groups
4. A simple host introduction
Leave cleanly
1. Reading the transition window
2. Suggesting a walk or next stop
3. Changing settings cleanly

07 Relationships

8 sections, 30 lessons

What changes after commitment
1. The dynamic after the third date
2. Why a partner chooses you
3. What makes someone stay
4. The first fork in the road
The first 90 days
1. Cadence and how often to meet
2. Cadence and emotional intensity
3. The exclusivity conversation
4. Avoiding one-sided overinvestment
Conflict without breaking
1. De-escalating without disappearing
2. Holding the line on what matters
3. Knowing when you're wrong
4. Repair after real conflict
Keep attraction mutual
1. Presence inside the relationship
2. Banter and space inside a relationship
3. Sex, novelty, ritual
4. The 6-month and 18-month transitions
Disclosure and structure
1. When to disclose
2. How to disclose with steadiness
3. Clear words without overselling
4. Respecting a clear no
Logistics and scheduling
1. A sustainable weekly cadence
2. Holidays, milestones, and shared time
3. Group events and shared friends
4. When schedules collide
Jealousy and reassurance
1. Reading the early signs
2. Reassurance that stays honest
3. Your own jealousy and what to do with it
When it ends
1. Reading the ending early
2. Ending clearly and with respect
3. The effect on the wider structure

Already included

The course builds your game.
The playbooks are there when you need the answer now.

You're about to go out.
You've just got her number.
A conversation has gone quiet.
You're planning a date with someone you actually like.

You shouldn't have to search through the whole course to find the part you need.

Your purchase includes ten practical playbooks, plus Steal My Lines, organized around the situations you're likely to face.

Meeting her and keeping the conversation moving5 playbooks

The moment you see her

Approach Blueprint

What to do from seeing her to starting the interaction.

The six moves

These six actions take you from standing still to making a respectful approach. Use them in order, then repeat the set at a real cafe, shop, or social place.

Practice With Low Stakes. Go to a cafe, shop, or lobby and greet five people. Say, "Hi, how's your day going?" Then keep walking after each person answers.
Choose Within Three Seconds. When you see a woman who is not busy, say, "I will walk over now." Start walking within three seconds of saying it.

The first ten seconds

Opening Playbook

What to say in the first ten seconds, when your mind goes blank.

The six moves

Use these six moves in order. They take you from seeing her to hearing her answer.

Pick a Clean Approach Moment. Choose a woman who is not on her phone or rushing to a door. Walk over during a clear pause, such as when she stops at a shelf.
Enter Her Sight Line. Walk toward her from the front or front side, then stop about two feet away. Keep both hands visible and leave a clear path beside you.

Right after hello

Conversation Engine

Keep it going past hello without it turning into an interview.

The six moves

Use these six moves in order. Each one gives her a line to answer, not another question.

Answer, then add detail. Answer her question in one sentence. Add a detail she can ask about, such as, "Denver. I moved here for work, and I still miss the dry air." Pause for two seconds. Do not ask another question.
React before asking. When she says, "I teach fourth grade," say, "That takes patience. My nephew thinks glue belongs on every table." Then ask, "What part do you like most?"

When her friends are around

Group Playbook

Talk to her when she is with her friends and they get in the way.

The six moves

Use these six moves in order. Say the lines aloud, then try them with a group at a bar, party, or cafe.

Read the group first. Before you walk over, stand about three feet from the group at an open side. Wait until nobody is speaking, then face the woman and smile once.
Greet the whole group. Walk to the open side and say, "Hey, I'm [your name]. You all look like you're having a good night. I wanted to meet you." Keep your feet outside their small circle.

Asking for her number

Number Formula

Ask for her number so she actually says yes.

The six moves

The six actions below take you from a real talk to a set date. Do them in order, and say each line aloud until you can say it without reading.

Name One Real Detail. Before you ask, name one thing she actually said. For example, say, "That story about your old job was funny." Ask one question about that story. Listen until she finishes.
Ask With A Plan. After she answers, say, "I've liked talking with you. Let's get coffee Thursday after work. What's your number?" Say it once, then wait for her answer.

Turning online interest into a date3 playbooks

After you get the number

Text Game Blueprint

Turn a new number into a date that happens.

The six moves

Use these six actions in order. Each one gives you a clear text to send or a clear thing to do.

Save one real detail. Open your notes app before you leave. Write her name and one detail she gave you, such as the cafe she likes or the class she takes.
Send a clear opener. Within 24 hours, name the place you met and ask about the detail. Try, "Hey, it's [your name] from the food hall. Which noodle place did you mention?"

When she goes quiet

Flake Recovery

What to do when she cancels, or just goes quiet.

The six moves

Use these six moves in order. Start with the last text you have, and end by closing the chat.

Read the last ten lines. Open the chat and read the last ten lines before you type. Write her last clear answer on paper, such as "I can’t make Thursday."
Mark the chat type. Mark the chat as a cancel or no reply. If her words are vague, use the clear ask below.

Before any of this starts

Match Magnet

Fix a profile that is getting no matches.

The six moves

These six moves fix a messy camera roll. You end with a clean profile and a first message you can use. Do them in order. Keep your phone open.

Delete weak photos. Open your camera roll. Remove blurry shots, mirror selfies, car shots, and photos where your face is hidden. Keep pictures you would show a friend before a first date.
Shoot a clear first photo. Ask a friend to take 20 photos outside in daylight. Face the phone and keep your eyes visible.

The date itself2 playbooks

Planning the first date

First Date Formula

Where to take her, and how to run the night.

The six moves

These six moves tell you what to book, say, and do from the first text to goodbye. Use them in order, then run the drill before your next date.

Pick two nearby places. Choose a cafe with a dessert shop within a five minute walk. Check both places close at least one hour after your planned end time.
Set the date length. Book the first place for 60 to 90 minutes. Put the end time in your phone, then choose a start time that does not clash with her train or bus home.

The first kiss

First Kiss Method

Make a move without making it weird.

The six moves

Use these six moves in order. They take you from the seat to the pause, then to the kiss.

Choose a side seat. At a booth or couch, sit beside her or at a right angle, not straight across. Keep about one forearm of space. This lets you turn toward her without bending over the table.
Use one brief touch. During a warm laugh, touch her forearm for one second, then take your hand away. Use this only when she reaches for you first or keeps her arm near yours.

Seeing how the words can sound

Plus: Steal My Lines

See real examples of how the ideas sound in a conversation or message. Use them to understand the phrasing, not just the principle.

Question-based first messages

A question is the safest first move.

“Your photos from that trip look incredible. Where was that?”

All ten playbooks and Steal My Lines unlock with your purchase. No separate purchase required.

The guide he opens before he goes out

The main modules taught me the system, but the Field Toolkit is probably what I open most often now. If I'm going out that night or a conversation has gone quiet, I can pull up the relevant guide in a few minutes instead of digging through hours of lessons trying to remember what I learned.

Theo K.London, UK

Built for wherever you're starting

Beginner

If you're a complete beginner

Start with Fundamentals and follow the course in order. You'll learn what to work on before trying to improvise your way through hundreds of disconnected techniques.

Already approaching

If you already approach

Use the system to find the gaps. Maybe meeting women isn't the problem anymore. Maybe you're losing opportunities in attraction, texting, dates, or conversion.

Mostly online

If online dating is your main source of dates

Go deep on Online Dating, then use the Text Game Blueprint and Dates to improve what happens after the match.

Looking for something real

If you want a relationship

The system doesn't stop when you get a number or a first date. The final modules cover social life, commitment, communication, boundaries, conflict, and relationships.

Who it's not for

The course only works if you do five things. If you won't do them, save your money.

Walk up and say helloThree times a week, even on the days your feet won't move.
Write down what happenedAfter every attempt: what you said and what she said. Not how it felt.
Keep going for 30 daysTwo approaches a week for a month beats twenty in one weekend and then quitting.
Fix one sticking point at a timeAt day 14, read your notes, find the one thing that keeps happening, and work on only that.
Use each part before moving onLearn one part, go out and use it that week, then move on to the next.

He didn't know where to start, and Fundamentals gave him the map

Before this, I genuinely didn't know where to start. Every video online seemed to assume I already understood ten other things. Fundamentals gave me the map, and then I could work through one skill at a time without constantly wondering whether I was skipping something important.

Eric T.Columbus, USA

Years of approaching, and he still found what he was missing

I've been approaching for years, so I expected to skim a lot of the course. Instead, the useful part was seeing where my skills were uneven. I was strong in person but much weaker at converting numbers and running dates than I thought. It gave me a much clearer picture of what to work on.

Julian S.New York, USA

Everything unlocks today.
Here's a simple way to work through it.

Start with Fundamentals, then follow the suggested six-week path through Daygame, Nightgame, Online Dating, Dates, Social Circle, and Relationships.

FirstFundamentals of Game

Week 1Daygame

Week 2Nightgame

Week 3Online Dating

Week 4Dates

Week 5Social Circle

Week 6Relationships

Already know the area you need?

Go straight to it.

The roadmap gives you a starting point. It does not lock the rest of the course.All seven modules and the complete Field Toolkit are available immediately.

He actually finished this one

I'm the kind of person who buys a course, watches six hours the first weekend, and then never opens it again. Having one part to focus on at a time completely changed that. I'd learn something, go out and try it, then come back before moving on. I actually finished this one.

Connor J.Boston, USA

Learn something you can use the next time you go out.

Every lesson takes a few minutes to read and teaches one thing. Read it, take it out that week, and come back for the next part once you've used it.

The practice drills

Fundamentals of Game
The 30-second hello practice
Walk up, say hello, keep it going for 30 seconds, then leave. Three times a week for three weeks.
Fundamentals of Game
The tiny daily practice
Go out with a specific intention, do it once or twice, then write down what you did and what happened. Keep it up for 30 days.
Fundamentals of Game
The 14-day check-in
After two weeks, read your notes back and pick the one sticking point that keeps showing up. That becomes your focus for the next 14 days.
Every playbook in the Field Toolkit
The two-week drill
Two weeks of daily reps, then the checklist to run before you go out. All ten playbooks end with one.

The whole course. Every playbook. One payment.

Get all seven modules, the ten Field Toolkit playbooks, and Steal My Lines for $497 once.

No choosing which part of your dating life you can afford to learn first.
No waiting for the next module to unlock.
No subscription required to keep your access.

What it cost separately

Six coursesDaygame, Nightgame, Online Dating, Dates, Social Circle, Relationships
Ten playbooksEvery Field Toolkit playbook

Previously ~~$1,384~~ when the courses and playbooks were purchased separately.

Now included in one complete program.

As his dating life changed, the part he needed changed too

When I started, Daygame was basically all I cared about. A couple months later I was going back through texting and dates because those had become the new problems. That's what I like about having the whole system. The part you need changes as you get better.

Jonah W.Seattle, USA

The Complete Dating System

$497 once

Seven complete modules covering Fundamentals, Daygame, Nightgame, Online Dating, Dates, Social Circle, and Relationships.

179 lessons across 43 sections, the complete ten-playbook Field Toolkit, and Steal My Lines.

All modules available immediately.
Unlimited access.
Future lessons added to these seven modules included.

Get instant access, $497

One payment · Nothing recurring

Get inside. Decide for yourself.

Explore the course and the playbooks.

If it isn't right for you, email hello@coldapproach.io within 14 days of purchase and we'll refund you, for any reason.

The 14-day period begins on the purchase date. Full terms are in the refund policy.

Frequently asked questions

Is this useful when I already know a lot about dating?

Knowing a lot and having a complete skillset are different things. Use the course to work on the parts where your results are uneven, whether that is attraction, texting, dates, online dating, or relationships.

Is this for complete beginners?

Yes. Fundamentals of Game is module one.

Am I too old to learn game?

No. Your age, like everything else about you, is just a trait. It's neutral. It's time to leverage your life experience.

Coming back after years away? Allow yourself to be a beginner again for a few days or a week, and start with the 30-second hello practice in Fundamentals of Game.

Do I need to finish the whole course before using it?

No. Start with the lesson or module relevant to you and put it into practice. The suggested six-week path is there to help you work through the material, not delay getting started.

Do I get all seven modules immediately?

Yes. All seven modules, the ten playbooks, and Steal My Lines unlock when you purchase. Nothing is released on a weekly schedule.

How long do I keep access?

Unlimited access. You pay $497 once, with no subscription and nothing recurring, and any lesson we add to these seven modules later is included.

What's the refund policy?

A 14-day money-back guarantee. Email us within 14 days of your purchase for any reason and we'll refund it.

What exactly are the lessons like?

The lessons are written, and each one teaches one thing in a few minutes of reading. Fundamentals gives you practice drills to go and do, every playbook walks through the moves and what to say before ending with a two-week drill and a checklist, and Steal My Lines shows how the ideas sound in real messages and conversations.

See a lesson and a playbook page

Can I see the teaching before buying?

The first section of Fundamentals is available free when you sign in. Use it to see how the material is presented.

Is this private coaching?

This is a self-study course. You get the complete training and practical references to work through yourself. Private coaching and Community membership are separate offers.

How is this different from the Community membership?

This purchase gives you unlimited access to the course without maintaining a Community subscription. Community membership is the separate option for group participation and coach access while subscribed.

What if I get stuck?

Go back to your notes. The 14-day check-in in Fundamentals of Game has you read them, pick the one sticking point that keeps showing up, and work on only that for the next 14 days.

If you want a coach to look at it, post it in the Community, our private Slack group. Coaches answer in the channels, and there's a live coaching call every week. It's a separate membership.