What Is the Best Dating App in the USA for Men?

In a big American city, try Hinge first, Tinder second and Bumble third. Hinge tends to turn matches into real dates there, Tinder is the larger crowd, and Bumble puts a clock on the first message. In a small city or a college town, the app your neighbors already use beats the one with the better reputation. Whichever you pick, it only works if your photos and your first message do their job.

a dating coach's point is that an app is only as good as the women on it who actually want to date. Good game on an app full of fake accounts and people who are not looking is worth less than decent game on an app where women are genuinely interested.

He adds that each app runs its own algorithm and draws its own users, which is why a man can fail on one and do well on another. In the US he finds Tinder carries a lot of fake accounts, especially in the major cities, and that Hinge tends to be more efficient there. In many places in Europe he says Tinder is almost the only app anyone uses, so the same app flips from second choice to first.

We have no figures for which app is biggest in your town, and we will not make any up. You can find out in an afternoon. Open each app, set your distance and age range, and count the women in one session you would actually take out.

Hinge puts a woman's written answers and personal details in front of you before you choose. A match starts when someone Likes, or sends a Rose to, one photo or prompt, and a comment can go along. That gives you something real to reply to.

It suits a man who is willing to read. My advice on messages is to comment on something specific she wrote, and Hinge puts that something on the screen. If you live in a large American city and want regular dates, start here.

Tinder is the biggest crowd, and a mutual right swipe opens a chat. She decides on a single card in a second or two, which puts nearly all the weight on your first photo.

coach says Tinder still works and that you can get plenty of matches on it. He simply finds Hinge more efficient in the US. If your city is small, or you are in a place where Tinder is the default, test it properly before you write it off.

On Bumble, a mutual right swipe makes the match, and then each of you has a limited time to send one opening message. It favors a man who opens the app most days and writes soon after matching.

It is the one to test third. coach rates Hinge far ahead of it, and he adds that you should use whichever you like, because being on several apps at once is fine.

Coffee Meets Bagel sends a small daily batch of people around noon, so it suits a man who would rather make a few careful decisions than scroll. OkCupid compares your answers with hers and shows a Match %, and coach rates its matching as good. eHarmony starts with a Compatibility Quiz and suits a man who wants something serious. Facebook Dating is a separate page inside Facebook that your friends cannot see, and it suggests friends of friends, which gives you shared ground to open with.

Do not run six apps. Pick two, give them the same photos and the same written answers, and use them every day or two for two weeks. Write down three numbers for each: matches, matches that became a real conversation, and conversations that became a date.

The match count flatters you. The date count tells the truth. Keep the app that produces dates and drop the other.

coach also says to be careful with paying. A paid tier can get you shown to more women, and he thinks a little money is often worth it, but he calls paid features multipliers. A multiplier on an account that gets nothing gives you more nothing. Test a paid tier for a short stretch and keep it only if your numbers move.

The app decides who sees you. It does not decide what a woman thinks once she is looking.

A man with clear daylight photos and a few specific lines does well on any of these apps. A man with a dark selfie and nothing written does badly on all of them, and switching apps only carries the same result somewhere new.

So the work goes in this order: photos, then the written lines, then a first message about one thing she wrote. coach moves a woman from the app to her number in four to seven messages and mentions going out early, so the plan never arrives from nowhere. Only after those three are in order is it worth asking which app is best.

If your numbers stay poor on two apps even with strong photos and a good first line, the fault is usually in the conversation after the match, and that is the step to look at next.