What Are the Best Dating Sites in NYC?

For most men in New York the best dating site is Hinge, with Tinder second and Bumble third. a dating coach's current favorite for the city is Hinge, and he adds that this can change over time, so test more than one and keep what gives you dates. There is nothing wrong with running two or three at once. If you searched for dating sites in NYC, here is the short list and the reason for the order. It also covers New York's one real problem, which is getting from the app to the date.

Hinge shows a woman's written answers before you decide, so you choose with more than a photo and you can reply to something she actually said. That helps a man willing to read. In a big American city a dating coach finds it stronger than Tinder, and in New York he names it as his current favorite.

New York has plenty of women on every app, so the question is not whether anyone is there. It is which app lets you stand out in a crowd. A specific reply to something she wrote does that better than a greeting.

Tinder has the biggest crowd and a hookup reputation. a dating coach says that in major US cities it carries many fake accounts, which is one reason he leans toward Hinge.

Still, with a pool as large as New York's it is worth having. Its first decision happens on one card in a second or two, so your photos carry more weight on Tinder than anywhere. Strong, varied photos can work well there. Weak ones will get skipped quickly in a city this big.

Bumble gives each side a limited time to send the first message after a match. That suits a man who checks his phone through the day and writes soon after matching. It does not suit one who matches in bursts and replies days later. a dating coach rates Hinge far above it, but he also says to use whatever you like.

Some sites ask for more writing and show more of each person. a dating coach notes that on a longer-form site the written part matters more, while on Tinder it should be shorter. If you write well and like reading, adding one of these gives you women who care about words.

a dating coach says there is nothing wrong with being on all of them, because each has its own algorithm and its own mix of people. A man can fail on one and do well on another.

In practice, two is enough. Give them the same photos and run them for two weeks. Count your matches, the replies, and the plans that came out of them. Drop the one that gives you nothing.

The size of the pool is a trap of its own. When the screen is full of women it is tempting to like all of them, and a dating coach says that backfires because the app learns you have no standards. Like the women you would truly want to meet, and write to them properly.

This is the New York part. a dating coach says it is very easy to get women to come to Manhattan, especially lower Manhattan. He says it is very hard to get women from Manhattan to come to the outer boroughs. His ideal base is Manhattan below about 60th Street, or as far into Brooklyn as Williamsburg.

On an app, that turns into a simple rule: suggest a place that is easy for her to reach. A bar or cafe near her, or somewhere central, gets a yes. A plan that needs a long trip gets rearranged until it dies.

Name a specific place and a specific day. "Coffee near you on Thursday?" beats "we should hang out sometime" every time, and New Yorkers who moved recently are often looking for a reason to go out.

a dating coach's point is that the site decides less than you think. Your photos decide whether she reads further, your first message decides whether she answers, and your plan decides whether she comes. Fix them in that order before you worry about which logo is on the screen.

He also calls the apps a bonus round in New York, not the main plan. Use them for the easy start, and keep meeting women in the places you already go.