What Are the Best Dating Apps Like Down?

Down is known as an app for casual meet-ups, so the nearest apps are the ones where people say plainly what they want. Tinder is the biggest and carries the hookup reputation. Bumble and Hinge let you state an intention. Feeld is for people who want open arrangements, and OkCupid lets you answer questions about what you are looking for. We have no usage figures for Down itself, so this guide compares what each app does for a man who wants something casual.

Men who ask for an app like Down usually want one of three things. They want women who are open to casual dates. They want to say what they want without a long explanation. Or they want fewer matches that turn into a debate about commitment.

Pick the one that matters most. Each leads to a different app.

Tinder has the most people, and a dating coach says it has more of a hookup reputation than Hinge or Bumble. That helps a man who wants casual dates, because the women there already expect some of them.

It is also the app where the first decision happens on one card in a second or two. Clear photos matter more here than anywhere. a dating coach adds that in major US cities Tinder carries many fake accounts, so be quick to spot the ones that push you off the app.

Bumble lets you choose a dating intention and filter by it. Tinder lets you add relationship goals. Hinge lets paying members filter by dating intentions.

Hinge is the more relationship-leaning of the two, and a dating coach rates it above Tinder in big American cities. For a man who wants casual dates it is a harder fit, because its reputation points toward something steadier. Bumble sits in between, and it adds a clock: each side has a limited time to send the first message after a match.

An intention on a page is only as reliable as the person who wrote it, so read hers before you write.

Feeld lets members describe what they want in their own terms and filter by those labels, including couples and open arrangements. If what you liked about Down was an app where nobody pretends, Feeld goes further. It is also a smaller, more specific crowd, so it suits a man who is comfortable with that.

OkCupid sets her answers next to yours and gives a match percentage you can see before you write. a dating coach has used it a lot and likes its matching and the women on it. It rewards honest answers, including the one about what you are after. Answer to impress and the percentage will favor women who fit a man you are not.

This is the part most men get wrong, and it is judgment, not a rule from a coach. Do not say you want a relationship to get a casual date. A woman who feels misled does not come back, and she tells her friends.

a dating coach's warning goes the other way too. A page that is too gamey or too sexual puts women off even when they would otherwise be attracted to you. She wants to feel drawn to you without being able to point at what you did.

So say it once, calmly, in one line, and let your photos and details do the rest. "Keeping things light, looking for good dates" is plenty. On the first dates, ask what she wants and accept her answer. Plenty of women want the same thing, and the ones who do not will say so early.

Do not run five apps. Pick two, give them the same photos, and run them for two weeks. Count the matches, the replies, and the dates.

a dating coach's point is that each app draws its own crowd, so one can work for you when another does not. Keep whichever turns your time into dates, and drop the rest.

One last point. An app can put a date on your calendar, but it cannot run the date for you. a dating coach noticed a steep drop-off after the first night in the tally he reviewed. So put some effort into the date itself. Pick a simple place, keep an easy pace, and know what you will say if she asks what you are looking for.