What Are the Best Dating Apps for Attractive Singles?

No dating app holds only attractive singles, and none lets you filter for them. Hinge, Tinder and Bumble all have attractive women on them, so the app you pick matters less than most men think. In a big US city, start with Hinge. Where Tinder is the app everyone around you uses, as in much of Europe, start there. After that, what decides how many attractive women you reach is what you do on the app.

Attractive is a personal call. The woman you would stop for on the street is not the woman your friend would pick, so no app can sort the crowd for you.

An app that advertises itself as exclusive still runs the same steps. You see her, she sees you, you both like, and one of you writes. A smaller crowd means fewer women to see, and the same steps still apply. a dating coach says each app has its own algorithm and its own mix of people, so a man can fail on one and do well on another. That is a reason to test two apps, not to hunt for a secret one.

For most men in a US city the order is Hinge, then Tinder, then Bumble. Hinge shows a woman's written answers before you decide, so you are choosing with more than one photo and you can reply to something specific. a dating coach finds it stronger than Tinder in major US cities, in part because he says Tinder carries a lot of fake accounts there.

Tinder has the biggest crowd. That makes it the obvious first pick in places where it is almost the only app people use. Its first decision happens on a single card in a second or two, so it is harsh on weak photos.

Bumble comes third for most men, and it suits a man who writes soon after a match.

a dating coach breaks online dating into a chain of ratios. First comes your time, then matches per hour, then how many of those matches are women you actually find attractive. Replies, phone numbers and dates come after. His point is that men work on everything at once and fix nothing.

If you want attractive women, the ratio to watch is the share of your matches you would be glad to meet. It sits before the reply, before the message, and before the date. A man with ten matches a week and one attractive one has a different problem from a man with ten attractive matches who never gets a reply.

a dating coach names a few moves, all from his own experience.

• Better photos. They raise your matches of every kind. If one in ten matches is a woman you find attractive, going from ten matches a week to twenty takes you from one to two. That is his example, not a statistic.
• A little polarizing. A page that gets some women to love it and some to dislike it does better with the most attractive women than one that is simply fine. A forgettable page gets swiped past out of boredom.
• No leveling. Do not lead with something that shows you as a notch below the women you are after. a dating coach told a client with a good physique to test removing his shirtless photo. Next to the best physiques on the app it could cost him with the most attractive women.
• Choosiness. If you like everyone, a dating coach says the app learns you have no standards. Like only the women you would truly want to meet, and his reasoning is that the app may show you more of that kind.
• Reaching out. Roses and super likes put your interest in front of her more often. They also give away some power, so your first message has to be good.

The women near the top of any pool hear from many men. a dating coach's view is that most men are boring and fit in everywhere, in the message and on the date too, and standing out is what moves you into the group that gets answered.

So skip the greeting. Pick one specific thing she wrote or showed, say something short about it, and ask a question she can answer in a sentence. Then aim for a plan within a handful of messages.

Pick one app for two weeks. Count the women you liked, the matches, the ones you were glad to match with, the replies, and the dates. Change one thing, such as your lead photo, and count again.

Whichever app and whichever change produces dates with women you were happy to meet is your answer. A ranking cannot give you that, and it costs nothing to find out.