What Are the Best Dating Apps for Fat Guys?

No dating app is built for heavier men and none keeps them out. The big ones, Hinge, Tinder and Bumble, are where most women are, so start there and test two of them. What decides your results is less the app and more what you put in front of a woman: a clear face photo, clothes that fit, one honest full length shot, and a first message about her.

Men who carry extra weight often assume they need a special app, or that the apps are rigged against them. We have no evidence for either, and no app publishes figures on how heavier men do on it.

What the apps do reward is the same for everyone. A woman is reading a small set of photos in a second or two and deciding what kind of life is behind them. Weight is one thing she reads among several, and light, framing, clothes and expression are all read at the same moment. Most of those are things you can change in an afternoon.

a dating coach says the best app depends on where you live and that men should test more than one. In the United States, he says, Hinge tends to be better in many big cities, and in parts of Europe Tinder is close to the only app in use.

Pick two apps, give them the same photos and written lines, and run them for two weeks. Count the women you liked, the matches, the replies to your first message and the plans you made. A smaller or bigger app is not the point. The one that gives you more dates for the same effort is.

This is the photo that decides whether she reads the rest. It should show your face, alone, in daylight, with a relaxed expression.

a dating coach says most photo problems come down to not putting in the effort. His method is to get someone who likes photography to take around two hundred photos of you and keep only a couple. Practice poses in the mirror first. He adds that angle matters a great deal, and that a badly chosen camera angle can distort how you look.

If you are heavier, hold the camera slightly above eye level and a few steps back. Zoom in a little instead of pushing the lens up to your face. That is kinder than a camera held low. Take thirty and choose one.

Clothes do more work than most men give them credit for. A shirt that fits across the shoulders and chest photographs better than a loose one, and a loose one reads as hiding.

Dark, structured pieces that sit properly on your frame work better than stretched or baggy ones. Avoid big logos and bright white shirts in direct sun. a dating coach says to put on your best clothes for photos, and to buy something decent for the shoot if you have to. A good haircut helps your face more than anything else you can change that week.

Leaving out a full length shot does not hide your build. It leaves a gap, and the woman reading fills it in with the worst version.

One clear full length photo, taken in normal light and in clothes that fit, answers the question before she asks it. It also makes the first minutes of a date easier, because she arrives expecting the man she saw. Use one, and make it a good one. Do not use five.

A common mistake is putting the apology in the bio. A line about being a big guy or a bit of a teddy bear tells her you expect the weight to be a problem. She may not have noticed it was a topic until you raised it.

Write about what you do instead. The meal you cook, the team you follow, the weekend plan she could join. a dating coach says a bio should make a woman feel your attention is worth winning and show her what dating you would be like, and a bio spent on your insecurity does neither.

Keep the first message short and about something on her page. a dating coach goes from the first message to a phone number in about four to seven messages and then suggests a plan, and that rhythm works for any man.

If you are working on your weight, you do not have to wait until you finish. Visible effort reads well. A man who walks, lifts or cooks and says so plainly looks very different from one who is waiting to be rescued. But start dating now. The apps give you practice at the part that has nothing to do with the scale: writing a good line, picking a place, and asking for the evening.