What Are the Best Dating Apps for Chubby Guys?

Start with Hinge and Bumble, and give Tinder a short test after that. No app sorts women by body type, and none is built for heavier men, so the app matters less than whether it lets a woman read something about you before she decides. Hinge and Bumble put more words in front of her. That helps a man whose build is not the first thing he wants her to judge.

You will find sites that say they are for larger men and the women who like them. I would treat any of them as an extra at best, because none of them can tell you how many women are on it in your town, and that number is the only thing that matters.

The big apps are where the women are. What you are choosing between is how each one introduces you to a stranger.

Hinge shows a woman your written answers and a few details next to your pictures, and a Like lands on one specific picture or answer. That gives her something to react to besides your body. Bumble works differently. After a match, you both get a limited time to send the opening message, so a conversation there tends to start with someone who wants to talk.

a dating coach says Hinge tends to do better than Tinder in the major cities in the US, and that Hinge and Bumble have more of a relationship feel. Neither is a promise about your town. It is a reason to put your first weeks there.

Tinder is fast. She sees a picture, she swipes, and the decision is over in a second. If your build is the loudest thing in your first picture, that is a hard room for you.

It can still work, and My advice is to test several apps, because each has its own algorithm and its own mix of people. A man can do badly on one and well on another. Give Tinder two weeks with a lead picture that has you smiling and doing something, and let the result decide whether it stays.

Do not hide it. A woman who matches with you thinking you are slim and then meets you in person decides in the first ten seconds that you lied, and nothing else you say that night recovers it.

Include one clear full-length picture, taken in daylight, in clothes that fit you. Fit does more than size. A shirt that sits properly at the shoulder and a cut that follows your body make a bigger man look put together, while a baggy one makes him look like he is hiding. Then stop apologizing for it. Do not write jokes about your weight on your page. A joke at your own expense invites her to agree with it.

One coach in our material talks about being embarrassed by his body when he was young, and says that if you are embarrassed, women sense it, and it holds you back most when things get physical. Being comfortable in your body is part of what she reads. That comes from how you carry yourself, and it starts today, not after the diet.

He is blunt about it, and he is honest in both directions. He describes himself as five foot seven, slightly overweight, with acne for a good part of his life, and says he has dated hotter women than most men could imagine. He says he has seen men more overweight than the one listening get women, and that he has seen overweight men stop being overweight over time, because it is fixable.

He also says that being overweight will hold you back, and he tells men to get in the gym, with heavy lifting in it, partly for their own health. The part that matters most is the order. Work on getting in shape and on being better with women at the same time. Do not wait until you are in shape to start, because men who wait for the perfect moment start ten years late.

Once you have matches, your body stops being the main topic and your messages take over. My point is that a woman can only respond to what you convey. Ask her something specific about what she wrote, tell one short story, and suggest a plan within a few exchanges. A man who is easy to talk to and has a plan for Thursday beats a leaner man who is dull.

Run it as a test. Use two apps for three or four weeks with the same pictures and the same written answers. Count how many matches turn into real conversations and how many conversations turn into dates. Keep the app that answers, drop the other, and keep the gym going alongside it.