Can You Send a Regular Like in Hinge Standouts?

No. Hinge says that in Standouts you can only send Roses instead of Likes, and a Rose moves you to the top of her Likes You. Ordinary likes work in Discover, so reaching a woman from Standouts without a Rose means hoping she turns up there later, which Hinge says may not happen.

Standouts is Hinge's list of the people getting a lot of attention on the app who still meet your preferences. Every Hinge user can see it.

Attention is the key word. A woman in that list is being liked by a lot of men, and Hinge says some women there may no longer be looking for a match at all. A plain like would land in a crowd.

The Rose is how Hinge lets you skip that crowd. Hinge's page on Roses says they appear at the top of her Likes You screen. Its Standouts page adds that a Rose raises your chances of matching with someone who is getting a lot of attention.

Tap the star icon to open Standouts. Find the picture or written answer you actually want to react to and tap the Rose icon on it. Add a comment, then tap Send Rose.

Hinge calls the comment optional and, in the same breath, an excellent idea. The second part is the one to listen to.

To pass on a woman in Standouts, swipe her card to the left. In Discover you pass by tapping the black X instead. If you swipe someone away by mistake, the undo arrow brings back your most recent skip, within the undo allowance your plan gives you.

If you do not want to spend a Rose, the free option is to wait. Hinge says a woman from Standouts may appear in your Discover feed on a later day, where an ordinary like would work.

The catch is in the same sentence. Hinge says you cannot count on it, and it tells you not to wait too long if someone catches your eye. Standouts also brings in a new batch every day, so the woman you are waiting on can roll off before you decide.

She could also like you first. That is always possible, and it costs you nothing. It is not a plan.

Hinge gives members a free Rose on a regular schedule and says free Roses do not accumulate. More can be bought in the app, and bought Roses last until you use them.

That makes the free Rose use it or lose it. Spend it every time it comes around, and spend it on purpose. The right woman is the one you would most like to take out, the one you would regret never having contacted.

A Rose cannot rescue a weak first impression, though. If ordinary likes in Discover bring you almost nothing back, fix that first. A Rose only puts the same page in front of her sooner.

A Rose with no comment says one thing: you are keen. She already knew that from the Rose.

Give her something to answer. Pick one detail from her page that nobody else would comment on and ask about it in a sentence. If she has a picture from a market abroad, guess the city. If her written answer names a strong food opinion, take the other side. Two sentences is the limit.

a dating coach has a caution that applies here. Talking about Tinder's super like, he says he is not convinced it gets men many more matches. Even when it works, the chat starts with her knowing you picked her out as special. That puts her a little on a pedestal and leaves you more work to do in the messages. A Rose sends the same signal, so let the comment take the edge off. Write like a man who noticed something interesting, not a man grateful for the chance.

If she accepts your Rose, you match, and she moves to your Matches tab where you can start chatting. Now the Rose has done its job, so stop acting like it matters.

Pick up from whatever you commented on. Keep the pace easy, answer like a normal person, and do not flood her with questions. After a few good exchanges, name a specific place and a specific evening. A Rose gets you seen. Only a plan gets you a date.

If she does not accept, let it go. A Rose buys a spot at the top of her list, not an answer. Plenty of women in Standouts are simply not looking, which is exactly what Hinge says about them.