Why Can't I Message on Tinder?

There are four usual reasons you cannot message someone on Tinder. Your message may not be sending because of your connection. The match may be gone, because she ended it or deleted her account. She may have turned on Photo Verified Chat, which asks you to verify first. Or you are trying to message before you have matched, which Tinder treats as a premium feature. Each has its own fix.

If a message fails, Tinder's help center says to check you have a strong internet connection, then switch between Wi-Fi and mobile data. If that does not work, delete the app, reinstall it and try again.

On an iPhone, tap the red exclamation mark next to the failed message to resend it. On Android, tap the message itself. Deleting the app does not delete your account, so you will sign back in to the same chats.

Sometimes there is nobody to message. When someone unmatches, they disappear from your match list and you disappear from theirs. Tinder says unmatching is permanent and cannot be reversed. A match can also vanish because the other person deleted her account.

You cannot tell which of those happened, and Tinder does not tell you. A man who goes hunting for her on other apps to find out has turned a small loss into a bad week. Whichever it was, the useful move is to look at the conversations that are still open.

Tinder has a setting called Photo Verified Chat. A person who turns it on receives messages only from other Photo Verified people. If you message someone who has it on, you are asked to complete Photo Verification before you can write to her.

That is not a ban. It is a gate you can open yourself. Tinder's Photo Verification asks for a short video selfie, and a blue check mark goes on your profile once it is approved. A man with the blue check can reach women who have this setting on. A man without it cannot.

If you are not sure you want to verify, think about who you are cutting off. A woman who chose this setting has told you what she wants first.

Tinder has a premium feature that lets you send a short message to someone before you match. The message has a strict length limit, so it has to be a single line.

Tinder says sending one does not mean she will definitely see it. Factors such as her Discovery settings or her age verification status may affect delivery. So if you paid for it and nothing happened, that is not necessarily a fault with your app.

Make the one line count. a dating coach's view is that a line she has heard a hundred times goes nowhere. Write about one specific thing in her photos and finish with something she can answer in a sentence.

In Japan, Tinder asks users to verify their age with an ID before they can chat with matches. If you are there and cannot write to anyone, that may be why. This is specific to that country, so it does not apply to most men reading this.

If your connection is fine, the match is there, and neither verification applies, contact Tinder. Describe what you see when you try: the screen, any error and the time it happened.

Do not buy anything to fix a sending problem. Nothing in Tinder's steps for a failed message involves paying.

Getting the chat open is half the job. a dating coach says the common failure is a man who sends one line and watches it go dead, or becomes a pen pal and never makes a plan.

Read her page first. Write about something specific. Keep it short, keep it easy to answer, and move to a day and a place within a few messages. A woman you can meet is worth more than a long chat that goes nowhere.

Check your connection, check whether the match still exists, check whether she requires verified chat, and check whether you are messaging before a match. One of the four is almost always the cause.