It lives with whoever took the money. Tinder directs you to Apple Support, the Google Play Store or PayPal to see your list of subscriptions, your order history and updates on recent purchases. If you bought on Tinder.com, Tinder says to look at the confirmation email you got after the purchase, which includes a receipt with the transaction details.
Why Tinder does not keep one list for you
Most Tinder purchases are not processed by Tinder.
Buy inside the iPhone app and Apple takes the payment. Buy through the Google Play Store and Google takes it. Pay with PayPal and the record sits in PayPal. Each of those companies keeps its own history of what it charged you, so that is where the history is.
Tinder.com is the exception, because there Tinder takes the payment itself. For those purchases, the record is the receipt Tinder emails you.
Bought through Apple
If you subscribed or bought extras inside the iPhone app, your history is in your Apple account. It lists your subscriptions and your past purchases, including anything you paid Tinder for through the App Store.
Tinder points you to Apple Support for the steps. That is also where you go for anything else about an Apple charge, since Apple handles the transaction.
Bought through Google Play or PayPal
If you paid through the Google Play Store on an Android phone, your history is in your Google Play account. Your subscriptions and your order history both live there, alongside updates on recent purchases.
If you used PayPal, the payments show up in your PayPal activity like any other charge. That gives you the dates and amounts in one place, even if you have moved between phones.
Bought on Tinder.com
Search your email for the confirmation Tinder sent after the purchase. Tinder says it includes a receipt showing the transaction details.
If you cannot find it, search the inbox for Tinder along with words like receipt or order. Check the email address you signed up with, since that is where the confirmation would have gone.
When you do not know which one it was
The receipt tells you, if you can find any receipt at all. Tinder says an order number starting with MK means Apple bills you, GPA means Google Play, and TNDR means Tinder.com or a card entered inside the Android app.
Without a receipt, check each place in turn. Look at the subscriptions in your Apple account, then in Google Play, then your PayPal activity, then your email for a Tinder.com confirmation. Men who have switched phones sometimes find charges in two places, one for each phone.
If a charge looks wrong
The history is often where men spot a problem, such as two payments where there should be one. Tinder routes that by where you bought.
An iPhone purchase goes to Apple Support, because Apple manages the transaction, refunds included. Google Play Support handles orders whose number starts with GPA. An order number starting with TNDR or COSU, or a purchase on Tinder.com, goes to Tinder. Tinder says most in-app purchases are non-refundable, though some exceptions apply, so raise it soon after you notice rather than months later.
Read the history as a record of what you tried
Once you have the list in front of you, it is worth reading as more than a set of charges. It shows every plan and every extra you paid for, and roughly when.
Put it next to your dating over the same stretch. Which months brought in matches that turned into dates? Did the Boosts line up with better weeks, or did they come and go without a trace? Did moving up a tier change anything at all?
a dating coach's habit with paid features is to test each one and keep only what earns its keep. He also has little patience for the man who refuses to pay for anything on principle, because the principle quietly costs him dates. Your payment history is the raw material for exactly that test. Keep what lined up with more dates.
His other point matters too. Paid features are multipliers, and multiplying zero still gives zero. If the history shows months of spending and very few dates, the next purchase is unlikely to be the answer. A clear, recent photo of your face at the front, and an opening line about something she actually posted, will do more than another plan.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.