What Does GGG Mean on Feeld?

GGG stands for good, giving and game. Feeld's glossary says Dan Savage popularised it to describe the qualities of an excellent sexual partner. On Feeld it is one of the desires a member can add to their page.

Feeld's glossary defines the three words like this:

• Good means good in bed.
• Giving means giving of time and pleasure.
• Game means game for exploring and being open-minded.

Read together, it describes a partner who is skilled, generous and relaxed about trying things. It is a description of how someone behaves with a partner, not a type of relationship or a set of acts.

Feeld lists GGG as one of the many desires members can add. Others on the list include BDSM, ENM and Friendship.

Feeld does not allow custom desires. You pick from the app's list, and Feeld points members to its glossary for the definition of every desire it offers. If a word you see on a woman's page puzzles you, the glossary is the place to check before you ask her.

When you add GGG, you are making a claim about yourself. A woman reading it asks one question: does this man sound like someone I would be comfortable with?

A man who writes it next to something honest and specific about what he is looking for tends to come across as relaxed. A man who stacks every desire he can find looks like he is trying to be all things to everyone, and that is easy to read as someone who is not paying attention to her.

So pick the ones that are true and that you would be happy to talk about. If you could not explain why GGG describes you, leave it off.

Think about what the word promises: giving of time, game for exploring. You cannot show any of that in a label. You show it in the way you talk to her.

a dating coach describes the path to a meeting as attraction, then comfort, then the sense that plans are already on the table. A desire on your page can add a little to the first. It does nothing for comfort, which comes from how you write to her and how you act when you meet.

That is why the men who do well on an app like Feeld are rarely the ones with the longest list. They are the ones who are easy to talk to, who answer in normal time and who suggest meeting in a way that feels natural.

A man who has GGG on his page sometimes opens with a line about it. Do not.

My view is that men lean on explicit talk far too early, and that comfort and trust are what turn a conversation into a date. Spending that goodwill on a sexual line before she has relaxed with you wastes it. Let her bring up what the word means to her. If the chat is going well, it will come up on its own.

When she does ask what you meant, answer plainly and lightly. Say what it means to you in a sentence, and move on to something else.

Add it if three things are true. You mean it. You would be comfortable with a woman asking you about it. And it fits what you wrote everywhere else on your page.

Leave it off if you are adding it because other men do. A desire that does not fit the rest of your page makes the whole page feel less believable.

Either way, remember the most useful part of the page is not the label. It is the first photo, in daylight with a clear face, and one line that gives her something specific to ask about. Get those right and the desires are a small detail.