What Does GGG Mean on a Dating Profile?

GGG stands for good, giving and game. The phrase comes from sex columnist Dan Savage, who used it to describe the kind of partner who is good in bed, generous with the other person, and willing to try things. On a dating profile it is a sexual shorthand, and it usually describes the person who wrote it or the partner she wants.

Good means skilled and confident, a person who knows what they are doing in bed. Giving means generous and attentive, someone who cares about the other person's pleasure and not only their own. Game means open to trying things within reasonable limits, instead of refusing everything unfamiliar.

None of the three is a technical measurement. They are an attitude, and each person who uses the phrase fills in the details a little differently.

It is a quick way to say that sex matters to you, that you are relaxed about it, and that you want a partner who feels the same way.

A woman who writes it is often telling you what she thinks of herself. She may also be telling you what she hopes to find. Both readings are possible, and the letters alone do not say which one she means.

Many men see GGG and decide the woman is offering something to anyone who asks. That is a bad assumption, and it is the fastest way to get ignored.

The letters describe a mindset, not a promise about you. She still decides who she is attracted to, how fast things move, and what she wants from the person in front of her. A woman can be sex-positive and still choose slowly.

If you open with anything about sex because of those three letters, you will look like every other man who read the same thing. Start with something specific in her photos or her answers, the way you would with anyone.

Treat it as one fact about her, not the headline. Look at the rest of her page. Does she mention travel, a job, a sport, a sense of humor? Write to the person, and let the flirting show up naturally once she is talking back.

When the conversation is going well, ask what she is looking for. That is a reasonable question and it gets you a real answer. If she wants something casual and you want a relationship, or the reverse, you will find out in one exchange instead of three weeks.

Women read it differently on a man's page. a dating coach names being too gamey or too sexual as one of the most common mistakes he sees in men's profiles. His reason is that a woman wants to feel attracted without being able to point at the move that did it. When a man leads with sex, she decides he is pushing. The attraction can disappear even if she would otherwise have liked him.

A man who writes GGG is announcing that he wants a particular kind of partner before she has met him. It can read as sex-focused and a little scripted, and it tells her nothing about what a normal week with you is like.

Say what you are like to date, in specifics. What you do on a Saturday, what you cook, what you are bad at, what you want from the next few months. a dating coach's advice is to answer prompts and write a bio that shows her the experience of dating you, instead of listing facts or labels.

If you want to be open that you are looking for something casual, say so in ordinary words, and keep it short. A plain sentence is easier to trust than a code she has to decode.

GGG means good, giving and game. On her page it is a sign of her attitude about sex, not an invitation. On your page it usually costs you more than it earns. Read it, take it as one detail, and start a normal conversation.