What Are the Best Dating Apps for Big Guys?

The best dating app for a big guy is the one with the most active women near you. Tinder, Hinge and Bumble all have women of every build and taste, so you do not need a special app to find women who like a bigger man. What you need is better photos, an honest picture of your build and a first message that is not an apology. Get those right and your matches go up on whichever app you pick.

a dating coach names Tinder, Hinge and Bumble as the three to know. He says Tinder carries a hookup reputation, and that Hinge and Bumble lean toward relationships. Start with two of them and judge them by the dates they produce in your city.

An app made only for bigger men may match your taste more closely, but a small app has a small pool. Our material does not name or rank any, so check yourself: open it for two evenings and see how many new women appear within a distance you would drive.

By "big" we mean heavy, tall, broad, or some mix. The advice is the same for all of them.

a dating coach says a woman judges you by your worst photo. If you have three good photos and one weak one, take the weak one out.

For a big guy the more useful point is that she will see you in person. A set that shows only your face, or only angles that hide your build, sets her up for a surprise at the door. a dating coach says a woman usually looks more like her least flattering photo than her best one, so a man should read her whole set. She reads yours the same way.

Include at least one photo that shows your whole body, standing, in clothes that fit. It is better that she knows before the date than finds out at it.

a dating coach names the common culprits: bad lighting, odd shadows on the face, and angles that make a decent-looking man look heavier than he is.

Take photos in daylight, from a few different heights, and see which one flatters you. A camera held very low tends to make anyone look bigger. Stand tall, with your shoulders back, and do not hunch toward the lens.

Clothes matter more than their price. A shirt that fits across the shoulders and chest looks better than a loose one, and the camera is unkind to anything that hangs.

Take a lot of shots. a dating coach says to take a hundred and keep two, and most men do not put in that effort.

If an app asks for your height, put your real one. She will see you in person, and a lie turns the first minute of a date into a small disappointment.

If you are tall, show it plainly with a photo beside something that gives scale, like a doorway or a friend. If you are heavy, do not retouch your body. a dating coach is fine with removing a small blemish, and against using editing to hide how you look.

Write the first message a man of any size would write. Comment on something specific from her page and keep it light. a dating coach says the best messages are short and personal to her, and put you in a good frame.

Skip jokes at your own expense about your size. They hand her an idea she may not have had. You are a man who likes her page enough to write to her.

He is plain that being overweight holds a man back. He also says that building muscle, standing better and moving better helps a man of any size.

Treat that as a project running beside the apps, not as a condition for using them. A man who is lifting and improving his posture while he swipes is better off than one who waits until he is ready.

Run two apps for two weeks with the same photos and the same kind of first message. Count how many women you liked, how many matched, how many replied and how many agreed to a plan.

Keep the app that does better. a dating coach says it is fine to be on more than one app, and that a man can fail on one and do well on another.

The app is the introduction. Your photos, your honesty and your willingness to ask for a date do the rest.