What Are the Best Dating Apps to Meet Trans Women?

There is no single best app, and any ranking that claims otherwise is guessing. Feeld is the app built for saying openly what you want, and members choose their own labels for gender, sexuality and relationship type, so it is a sensible place to start. The large mainstream apps have far bigger pools but less structure. Whichever you use, read each woman's page, take her description of herself as she gives it, and be honest about your interest from the first messages.

Feeld is for iPhone and Android, and its members pick their own labels for gender, desires and relationship types. You can filter by relationship type, so the people you see are mostly open about what they are looking for.

That matters here. On an app where members state what they want, a man has less to guess, and a woman has less to explain to every stranger who writes.

The larger apps have many more people, so there are more women to find, but each page tells you less. A woman may state her gender in a small field, or not mention it at all. Some pages will be direct and others will not.

That is not a reason to avoid them. It is a reason to read before you write. Look at what she actually put on her page, and do not assume anything you cannot see.

The simplest rule is to take a woman's description of herself at face value. If her page says she is a woman, she is a woman, and you write to her as one.

Do not ask about her body or her history in the first messages. It is none of your business yet, and it tells her you are curious about something other than her. Ask about what you would ask anyone: the place in her third photo, the thing she wrote about weekends, what she does for work.

If you are looking for a relationship, say so. If you are looking for something casual, say that. Either is a fair thing to want, and being clear early saves both of you a week.

The same goes for how you treat the woman. If you would not want her to find out how you describe her to your friends, rethink how you describe her. A man who is open and steady about who he is dating is easier to trust, and trust is what gets a second date.

Respect works here as it does everywhere. Do not treat a woman as a category, a curiosity or a fantasy. Write to her as a person with a page worth reading, in plain words.

A message that mentions one real detail from her page and asks something easy to answer beats any line you could borrow. a dating coach says shorter is better and that commenting on what she wrote works better than commenting on a photo, because it seems more genuine and less superficial.

Before a woman reads anything you write, she looks at your photos. A clear, well-lit shot of your face as the first photo does most of the work, and a few photos from different days make the set believable.

a dating coach has a rule for the rest. A woman tends to assume your worst photo is the accurate one, so if you have three good photos and one mediocre one, drop the mediocre one. When you are unsure about a photo, leave it out. Then say one or two true things about yourself that sound like you, and say what you are looking for.

Meet in a public place for the first date, and tell a friend where you are going. Do not send money or financial details to anyone you have not met. Be wary of anyone who wants to move to another site or app very quickly.

None of this is special to meeting trans women. These are the same rules that protect any man on any app, and they matter just as much here.

Use one app for two weeks and count what you get: women who answered, conversations that became a plan. If the pool where you live is thin, add a second app rather than lowering your standards.

a dating coach's advice on any app is to be picky about whom you like. Like the women you would genuinely want to meet, and your results usually improve.