Is Dating in NYC Easier Than Dating in LA?

For most men, dating in NYC is easier than dating in LA, mainly because of how people get around. In New York, women walk, ride the subway or take a cab, so you see more of them in a day, and a bar or coffee shop is always a few blocks away. In LA, most people drive between neighborhoods, nights out are planned around the car, and it is harder to approach someone and go somewhere with her right then. LA has real strengths, including the weather and a glamorous nightlife, but New York gives a man more chances per hour.

Plenty of men ask this as "dating in NYC vs LA", often on Reddit after moving from one to the other. Here is how the two cities actually differ.

a dating coach has lived in New York, Los Angeles and Las Vegas, and calls all three good cities for meeting women. He is still blunt about LA: "one of the hardest cities for me in the world is Los Angeles reason being logistics."

His explanation is about cars. In LA, women often drive to a club together, sometimes half an hour or more from home. Leaving with a man means abandoning the friend who drove, or working out a long ride back. In New York, everyone took a cab or the subway on their own, so nobody is locked into a ride, and your place is usually close to wherever you met.

Even when an LA venue is more glamorous, coach says New York's easier logistics "kind of make up for it". For an ordinary man, that matters more than how good a club looks.

Walking is New York's biggest advantage. A Saturday in Manhattan puts thousands of people within a few blocks of you, in parks, shops, plazas and cafes. My favorite daytime spots are parks like Washington Square, Bryant Park, Madison Square and Union Square, where women sit alone in no hurry.

LA has beautiful daytime settings too, like the beaches, hiking trails, farmers markets and walkable pockets in a few neighborhoods. Between them, though, people are in cars. You can go an hour without passing anyone you could talk to, and turning a good conversation into a coffee usually means both of you driving somewhere.

New York nightlife runs late and is dense. You can walk between several bars in an evening, and bars stay open late. Ordinary bars with no line are full of young professionals, and a woman out on a weeknight often has no fixed plan.

LA nightlife is more spread out and more centered on particular venues. The scene can be glamorous, with plenty of attractive women in the best spots. The catch is the same one as by day: each venue is its own trip, and the night ends with everyone needing a ride.

LA is not worse at everything. It has warm, dry weather most of the year, so daytime outdoor meeting does not shut down for winter the way it can in New York. Many people there are outdoorsy and active, which suits a man who would rather meet women on a trail or at a beach than in a bar. Rents in some LA neighborhoods buy more space than the same money in Manhattan.

Some men also find LA's pace easier to enjoy. New York's speed and crowds wear on people who did not grow up with them.

New York is the most populous city in the United States, and census figures count about 86 adult men for every 100 adult women there. Combine that with how tightly packed the city is, and a man in New York simply passes more single women in a week than he would in a car city.

The crowd is different too. New York draws many people who moved for work or school and want to meet others. coach notes that "a lot of people moved here", which makes strangers more open to talking than the city's cold reputation suggests.

If you want the most chances to meet women in person and you do not mind cold winters and high costs, New York is easier. If you love being outdoors year round, drive anyway and mostly meet women through activities and plans, LA can suit you better.

Either way, the city sets the board. Your skill at walking over and starting a conversation decides how much you get out of it.

Cold Approach runs its Bootcamp in New York and Miami only, not in LA. Every training day is two four-hour blocks in the field, with daygame and night game mixed to suit you. Group is three consecutive days with no more than three students per coach, and Private is one, two or three days fully 1-on-1, with longer programs quoted on request. There is no skill floor, so you can start from your first approach.