How to Apply to The League Step by Step

Download The League from the App Store or Google Play and create an account. Complete the whole onboarding, ideally with a full set of good photos, your About Me, your interests and the Lightning Round prompts. Then verify who you are through LinkedIn, a work email, an edu email or Doximity. Once you submit, The League automatically places you on its Waitlist for review, and you can keep improving everything from there.

The League is on the App Store and Google Play. Download it and create an account.

Do this when you have time to finish the whole thing properly, with your photos already picked out. The League asks you to complete the full onboarding, and a rushed version is still the version that goes up for review.

There is no benefit to starting now and finishing later, either. Until you submit, you are not on the Waitlist at all, so a half-finished account is not in line for anything.

This step is the application. The League asks for a full set of quality photos, an About Me, your interests and answers to its Lightning Round prompts, and it wants all of them done.

Start with the photos, because they carry the most weight. a dating coach is plain about it: on any dating app, photos matter more than anything else, and an average-looking man can still do well if his photos are good. Lead with a clear, recent photo of your face in good light. Add others that show different settings and different days, so the set looks like a life rather than one afternoon. Fill the full set rather than stopping at the minimum.

Then the About Me. a dating coach's warning about bios applies here. Most men write them like a job interview, a list of facts and hobbies, and hope she finds something in common. He points out that a woman does not care much what you have in common until she already likes you. So write a few lines that show what an evening with you is like, not a résumé.

Pick interests you would actually talk about on a date, and answer the Lightning Round prompts with something specific. A particular bar, a trip, or a strong opinion about breakfast gives a woman something to ask you about. "I like travel and good food" gives her nothing.

The League asks you to verify through one of four routes: LinkedIn, an email address on a workplace domain, an email on an edu domain, or Doximity.

Pick the one that fits you. LinkedIn is the obvious choice if yours is up to date. A work email suits you if you would rather not connect LinkedIn. An edu address works if you have one, and Doximity is the route for men in medicine.

When you submit, The League places your application on its Waitlist for review automatically. There is nothing extra to file and nobody to email. You are in line.

Everyone starts there, so do not read anything into it. The League says the wait can be anything from a few hours to a few weeks or more, and it names narrow preferences as one of the things that make it longer. Before you press submit, look at your preferences and keep only the ones that truly decide whether you would date someone.

Your application is not fixed once you submit. The League says you can keep updating it from the Waitlist, and it is worth doing.

The League counts the quality of what you submitted among the things that affect how long you wait. So use the time. Replace your weakest photo with a better one. Cut the line in your About Me that reads like a job listing. Ask a friend who is honest with you which photo they would drop, and drop it.

Getting in is the start, not the finish. The men who do well on a curated app are the ones who handle their first conversations properly.

When a woman writes, answer the same day. Keep your messages short and about something she chose to share, and ask her something easy to answer. Once she is clearly enjoying it, suggest a plan. a dating coach's rule for any app is that messages are there to get you off the app and onto a date, so agree on a loose plan, swap numbers, and carry on by text. An application that took you an evening to build deserves conversations that go somewhere.