Does Daygame Work in New York City?

Yes. Daygame works in New York City, and a dating coach calls it his number one city for learning how to meet women. The supply of strangers is effectively unlimited. A lot of people live here and many moved recently, so they are more social than they look on a rush-hour sidewalk. If one conversation goes badly, you will probably never see her again.

The trick is choosing where and when. A crowded street at lunch is a poor place. A park bench on a Saturday is a good one.

There are two reasons. The first is volume. You can talk to ten women in an afternoon and none of them will connect to the others. A bad conversation costs you almost nothing.

The second is that many New Yorkers are new. They do not have decades-old friend groups, so they are actively meeting people. a dating coach's logic about a park is simple: if someone wanted to be alone and not talk to anyone, they would be at home in their apartment.

The Game New York guide, written by local men who have done this for years, names a handful of day spots.

• Herald Square, around 34th Street and Sixth Avenue. A major center for day approaches, with plenty of street light and a high share of solo young women near the big stores.
• Union Square. A park and a subway hub, so it has both women sitting on benches and women moving to and from the train.
• Astor Place and the NYU area. A residential area with many younger women and a strong arts scene.
• Broadway in SoHo. Crowded with young women shopping on most weekend days.
• Bryant Park and Washington Square Park. Both have benches, tables and a steady flow of people.

The rule is the same everywhere: look for women who are sitting, waiting or browsing, since those are the easiest to talk to.

A woman who is walking fast, wearing headphones or in a crowded part of the sidewalk is hard to stop. She is not rejecting you. She has somewhere to be.

Midtown at rush hour and tourist-heavy areas such as Times Square are also poor. They are crowded and distracting, and the women there are often in a group or in a hurry.

a dating coach has a tip for crowded places. When you stop a woman on the sidewalk, move her to the edge or against the wall of a building, so people stop bumping into you. If you are in a park, sit with her on a bench.

He adds a point about timing. When you are standing where you first met, the conversation feels like a pickup. Walking or sitting somewhere else makes it feel like a normal chat.

Keep the first line simple. Say hello, say why you stopped, and ask something about the moment. A woman on a bench can be asked about her book, her coffee or the park. Smile, keep your voice normal and give her room to leave.

If she is open, ask her name and talk for a few minutes. Then suggest coffee or a short walk, since New York makes it easy to continue the conversation on the spot. If she is not open, thank her and walk on. The next woman is a few steps away.

New York has real winters, and women wear more layers and walk faster in the cold. Daygame still works. Use indoor spots such as shopping centers, bookshops and cafes, and keep the openers brief.

Spring, summer and early fall are the best seasons, because parks fill up and people have time.

Most men are nervous at first and talk to very few women. That is normal. Expect that most of the early conversations will be short and that some will end quickly. Each one teaches you something, and the nervousness drops with repetition.

Set a small target, such as three conversations a day for a week. Count the times you walked up, not the number of numbers you collected.

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