Can You Message Someone on Badoo Without Matching

Yes. In Discover, you can tap the speech bubble icon on someone's page to start chatting with her instantly, without waiting for a match. To do it you need to be verified, and you need Credits, because starting a chat without a match is one of the things Badoo Credits are used for.

Go to Discover and open the page of a woman you want to talk to. Tap the speech bubble icon, and a chat opens straight away. She does not need to have liked you first, and you do not need to wait for a match.

It is a paid shortcut, and what it spends is your Credits.

You need two things before the speech bubble works for you.

1. A verified account. Badoo requires you to be verified before you can use this.
2. Credits. They are Badoo's top-up currency, separate from any subscription, and you buy them by tapping the credit balance on your profile page.

With both in place, the speech bubble takes you straight into a chat.

Normally a woman has to like you back before you can say a word to her. A chat without a match skips that step and puts your words in front of her before she has made up her mind.

a dating coach sees real value in that. When he talks about an app that lets you message someone before matching, he calls getting your message into a woman's inbox that way a huge advantage. On Hinge his own habit is to send a message along with his like, so a line is already waiting when she sees him.

A good first line can do something one photo in a fast feed cannot. It shows her how you talk.

A woman who gets a chat from a man she has not matched with has not picked him. She owes him nothing, and she was not expecting him.

My point is that women online ignore far more men than they answer, and even more so when she did not match with you first. So your first message has one job, which is to get her attention. Plain politeness will not do that. "Hey, how are you?" gives her nothing to react to and no reason to remember you.

Keep it short, and make it about her page rather than her looks.

coach starts by finding one thing she wrote or showed and building a light, slightly cocky line around it. In one of his examples, a woman wrote that witty banter was the way to win her over. He joked that she must have copied her answer from his. It was playful and specific, and it handed her an easy way to play along.

A few rules help.

• One idea per message. A paragraph reads as effort she never asked for.
• A little teasing beats a compliment, because she hears compliments all day.
• Ask for nothing big. The first line only has to earn a second one.
• Leave her something easy to answer. A line she can reply to in a few words beats one she has to sit and think about.

Credits cost real money, so spend them where they count.

Use this on women who are clearly your type, not on everyone you would tap a heart for. Keep each opener quick to write, too. My rule for first messages on any app is to have a simple way of writing them, so each one takes about a minute rather than a quarter of an hour.

Then count. How many of these chats got a reply, and how many of those replies turned into a plan? My rule for anything paid on an app is to test it and keep it only if it works. If your paid openers rarely get answered, change the openers before you buy more Credits.

From here it is an ordinary conversation. Keep it light, keep it moving, and bring up plans early rather than springing them at the end. coach usually moves a woman from the app to her number within four to seven messages. Then he likes a short phone or video call before the date, because it makes her far more likely to turn up.

A chat you paid to open is worth nothing if it drifts for a week and fades. The Credits bought you a first line. What gets you the date is getting to a plan while she is still interested.