How to Unmatch Someone on Badoo

Open your chat with her, tap the three dots at the top right, choose Unmatch and Block, then confirm with Yes, unmatch. Unmatching is permanent, and it removes the chat for both of you. Badoo does not send her a notification, but if she opens the chat, she will see that she was unmatched.

1. Open the chat with the person you want to unmatch.
2. Tap the three dots in the top right corner.
3. Choose Unmatch and Block.
4. Confirm with Yes, unmatch.

That is all of it. There is no separate settings page to find and no form to fill in. The option lives inside the chat itself, which is why you start there.

Badoo keeps it quiet. She gets no alert telling her you left.

Quiet is not the same as invisible, though. If she goes back to the chat, she will see that you unmatched, so do not treat this as a secret exit. It is a clean one, and that is enough.

It also makes an unmatch a poor way to make a point. If you are doing it to get a reaction, she may never look. If she does look, all she learns is that the chat is gone.

Once you confirm, the chat disappears for both of you, and you cannot bring it back.

Everything in it goes too. Her number, if she sent it there. The bar she mentioned. The evening she said she was free. If there is any chance you will want any of that later, copy it out before you tap anything, or keep the match and simply stop replying.

A simple rule helps here. If you are unsure, wait a day. A match you keep costs you nothing, and a match you remove is gone for good.

a dating coach treats this as housekeeping, not drama. His view is that if you matched with someone you are not attracted to, you just unmatch, and it is not a big deal. The apps are mostly passive, and clearing out the chats you would never turn into a date is part of using them well.

Good reasons to do it:

• You matched during a fast session, and on a second look she is not someone you would take out.
• She has been rude or hostile, and you do not want more of it.
• She has told you plainly that she is not interested.
• You have met someone and you want the other chats closed.
• You tried to set up a plan more than once and got nothing back.

A short list of chats is easier to keep up with. When every conversation on your screen is one you actually want, you answer faster and you put more into each reply.

The worst time to unmatch is right after a slow reply. A woman who takes a day to answer is often just busy. She has not said no.

If a conversation stalls, send one light line that picks up something she said earlier, and follow it with a simple plan. A callback like that reminds her why she was enjoying the chat in the first place. If she still does not answer, you can unmatch then or leave it where it is. Either is fine. What you should avoid is unmatching in a sulk and then wishing you had waited.

There is no need to explain why you are leaving. A cutting last line helps nobody, and it can cost you.

coach points out that the apps want to keep women happy, because women staying on an app keeps the men on it too. His warning is that a man who offends women, gets reported or gets unmatched a lot can end up shown to fewer people, and to fewer of the women he actually wants. So if a chat has turned sour, the unmatch button is the grown-up exit. Use it and move on.

The same thinking applies to what you send in the first place. Be playful and tease a little, but do not push so far that women start leaving your chats.

Unmatching is the small, tidy half of this. The bigger half is turning the chats you keep into dates.

coach usually gets from the app to a woman's number in four to seven messages, and every one of them moves toward a plan. Once he has her number, he likes a short phone call before the date, because she is less likely to cancel and more likely to arrive glad to see him. If a chat has drifted for a week with no plan in it, that is the one to fix, or the one to let go.