Why Does Feeld Delete Messages?

Feeld does not quietly delete your chats on its dating app. When a message to one of your matches disappears, someone did it. She may have unsent it, the chat may have ended because she blocked you or closed her account, or the message was a photo sent with a timer.

Any member can delete a message, image or video they sent. It comes out for everyone in the chat, and a Message deleted bubble stays where it was.

There is no time limit on this, so a message from days ago can be removed. Messages can only be deleted one at a time, which means a bubble or two is a small edit and a row of them is a woman clearing out a lot.

If you see that bubble, you do not know what she said and you cannot get it back. Do not ask her what it was. A woman who takes a line back usually wants it to stay gone.

Members can edit a sent message for up to 15 minutes, and an Edited tag appears in the chat. If a message reads differently than you remember, look for that tag first.

An edit is not a deletion, and it usually means she fixed a typo or toned something down. Let it go.

A photo can be sent with a timer of 5, 10 or 15 seconds after it is opened, and then it expires. Nobody deleted anything in that case. The photo did exactly what it was set to do.

If you want to keep something a woman shows you, you cannot rely on it staying in the chat. And if you send one of these yourself, know that she may only get a few seconds with it.

If a woman is missing from your chat list, the usual reason is that she blocked you or ended her account. Feeld says the chat history in that case is gone and cannot be recovered. Terminated accounts cannot be restored either.

This is the one that stings, because there is nothing to do. You did not lose messages, you lost the conversation.

If the chat says she left, it means she disconnected from you. In that case the history stays viewable for 30 days.

That window is useful. If there is something in it you want, such as a plan, an address or a name, copy it now.

None of these is something you can fix, and trying to is how a man makes things worse.

If a message was deleted, carry on as if nothing happened. If a whole chat has gone, treat it as an answer. a dating coach's attitude to women who are not interested is relaxed. He says to move on and fill the funnel with people who are, because you are not short of options if your page works.

The useful questions are about the next conversation, not the one that ended. Did you send her a long message that needed answering? Did you double text a few minutes after your first? My texting rules say a quick follow-up looks like you sent the message and then sat obsessing over it, and that looks needy.

You have the same tools. If you send something you regret, you can unsend it, with no time limit.

Use that for real slips, like a message to the wrong woman or a photo you did not mean to send. For anything smaller, a better next message does more than a bubble that says you took something back.

The best fix is to need it less. Read a message before you send it. If it is more than a few lines, cut it. coach aims for four to seven messages from the first one to her number, and every one has a job, so there is little room for something you will want to delete.