Can You Unsend a Message on Feeld

Yes. Tap and hold a message, image or video you sent, tap Delete message and confirm, and Feeld removes it for everyone in the chat. It works however long ago you sent it, so a line from hours or days back can still come down. You delete one message at a time, and a Message deleted bubble appears where it used to be.

1. Open the chat.
2. Tap and hold the message, image or video you want gone.
3. Tap Delete message.
4. Confirm.

Repeat for each one. If you sent three messages in a row that you regret, that is three separate deletes.

Every member can do this. It is not part of a paid plan.

The message itself disappears from her side as well as yours. What stays is a small Message deleted bubble in its place.

So she will know something was there. She will not see what it said, unless she read it before you deleted it. That bubble is worth keeping in mind, because a chat with several of them in a row looks like a man having second thoughts in public.

This is the part to be honest with yourself about. Delete removes the message from the chat. It does not remove it from her memory.

If she opened the chat while it was there, she has read it. Deleting a message she has already seen can make things more awkward, not less, because now she has read the line and watched you take it back.

So the useful question is not "can I delete it?" It is "has she already seen it, and what happens next either way?"

Some things should come down, and quickly.

• You sent something to the wrong person.
• You sent a photo or video you did not mean to share.
• You shared something private, like your address or a phone number you did not want her to have yet.
• You sent a line that was plainly rude or cruel, and you would not say it to her face.

In the first three cases, delete it straight away, with no explanation needed. In the last case, delete it and apologize once, briefly. a dating coach's rule on apologizing is simple: when you are actually in the wrong, apologize quickly, and when you are not, do not apologize at all.

Most regret is smaller than that. The joke that fell a little flat. The message that came out keener than you meant. The "hey" you sent before you had anything to say.

Deleting those rarely helps. It adds a bubble, draws attention to the wobble, and does nothing to move the chat forward. A good next message does far more. Pick something real from what she wrote, react to it lightly, and give her an easy reason to answer. The weaker line gets buried under the better one, and nobody remembers it.

The same goes for a double message. If you wrote twice before she answered, deleting the second one does not make you look calmer. Stopping there does.

Feeld is an app where people are often open about what they want, and that tempts some men to send explicit images early. Hold off.

My view is that men lean on sexting far too much. Getting a woman to sext and getting her to meet you take the same things: some attraction, and enough comfort and trust. He would rather spend that goodwill on a date. He calls it social capital. Each yes she gives you builds it, and each no spends it.

An explicit image she never asked for is a request she did not agree to. Deleting it afterward does not earn back what it cost, and the Message deleted bubble stays in the chat as a reminder. Let the conversation warm up first. If it heads that way, it will be because she wanted it to.

The best use of Delete message is needing it less.

Most of the lines men want back were written fast. Typed while half watching something, or sent late at night, or fired off to fill a silence. Read your message once before you send it and ask whether you would be happy for her to read it in the morning.

Then keep the chat heading somewhere. coach moves from a first message to a woman's number within four to seven messages, and every one of those pushes toward a plan. A conversation that is moving toward a drink leaves little room for the kind of message you would want to delete.