What Is the Attended Badge on Tinder?

The Attended badge is what Tinder adds to your page when you check in at a Tinder Event. It shows that you actually turned up, and afterwards you can keep connecting with other people who were there by matching with them. If your location access is on, Tinder may use your phone's location to enable check-in, or to notify you about it, when you are close to the venue.

The badge comes from checking in at the event itself. Marking yourself Interested is not enough, and neither is buying a ticket. You have to be there and check in.

Location helps with that. With location access on, Tinder may use where your phone is to switch on check-in, or to send you a reminder about it, once you are near the venue. If you keep location access off, you lose that help. So when you arrive, look at what the app asks of you and check in before the evening gets going and you forget.

Once you have checked in, the app has done its job for the evening. Put the phone in your pocket.

Men who keep glancing at their screens at events look bored or nervous, and both put people off. The women around you came to talk to someone face to face. Give them a man who is present, looking around and easy to start a conversation with.

If you catch yourself reaching for the phone because you feel awkward, take that as your cue to talk to the nearest person instead. Ask how they heard about the event, or what they made of the last round. Awkwardness fades fastest when you speak first.

On a dating app, most of what a man shows is a claim. His photos claim a life, and his written lines claim a personality. A woman has no easy way to check any of it.

The Attended badge is one of the few things on your page that is not a claim. It shows you left the house, went to a real event and stood in a room with strangers. That is a small thing, but it quietly answers a question many women have about men on the apps: does he actually do anything, or does he only scroll?

It also gives her something to ask about. "What was the event?" is an easy opening line, and easy openings get used.

Plenty of men mark events and never go. They like the idea of a social life more than the evening itself. The badge separates you from them, because you only get it by showing up.

Going also does something for you that no badge can show. Every event where you talk to people you do not know makes the next conversation easier. A man who is relaxed around strangers is a better date, and the only way to get relaxed is to do it often.

This is where most of the value sits. You met someone at the event, you had a good conversation, and the night ended before you set anything up. Tinder lets you keep connecting afterwards by matching with people who shared the experience.

If you match, write soon, while the evening is fresh for both of you. Refer to something specific that happened: the wine she refused to finish, or the serve she swore was an accident. A shared moment turns you from a stranger into someone she already knows.

Then suggest a plan. Keep it simple and concrete: a place, a day and a reason. "That bar you said nobody knows about. Thursday, and you are buying the first round because you lost at padel." The event did the hard part. Do not waste it on days of polite small talk.

Sometimes you notice someone at the event and never get the chance to speak. The chance to match afterwards still gives you an opening.

Be honest about it. "We were both at the tasting and I never made it over to say hello. That was a mistake. How did you rate the second red?" It is light and specific, and it admits the obvious without making a big thing of it.

Next time, go and say hello in the room. Talking face to face at the event is always stronger than a message after it.

A badge on your page is nice. A page full of event check-ins with no dates to show for them is not the aim.

Use each event for what it is: a room of people who came hoping to talk to someone. Talk to them, ask out the woman you like before the night ends, and let the badge be a side effect of a busy social life rather than the point of it.