What Is Feeld and Who Uses It?

Feeld is a dating app, on iPhone and Android only, where members say openly what they are looking for and which kinds of connection they are open to. Singles and couples both use it, and members choose their own labels for desires, relationship types, sexualities and genders. You must be 18 or older. Two members chat only after each has liked the other. The people who do well on it are men who are clear about what they want.

Most big dating apps ask you to pick a photo and write a line or two, and then leave the real question, what you want, to be sorted out on the first date. Feeld puts that question on the page.

Members fill in what they are curious about and what kind of relationship they have in mind. You can filter by distance, age, genders and relationship types, so a man sees only the members who match what he is after. That is why people call it more direct than the mainstream apps. Nobody has to guess.

It also explains why Feeld feels different to use. A page tells you a lot before you have said a word, and a member who dislikes what yours says will pass in a second.

We do not have figures on who the members are, and we will not invent any. What the app itself shows is a mix. Some members are single men and women. Some are couples, who can link their pages so that you see them together, and some members have partners in the picture. Feeld lets people choose how they describe their gender and sexuality, so you will see labels you may not have met before.

For you the practical point is this. Do not assume the woman you are looking at is single, or that she wants what the last woman wanted. Read what her page says, and treat it as the answer.

If a page belongs to a couple, write to both of them as people who are choosing, not to the one you like while the other waits. A couple reads a message that ignores one of them as a bad sign about you.

You browse in Discover and like or pass on each member. If you like each other, you are connected, and only then can you write. Free members can connect and chat. There is also a Ping, which lets you speak first and alerts the member right away. Feeld's paid tier is called Majestic, and its extras include seeing who liked you and some added filters.

That means your first impression is almost entirely what she sees before you connect. Your photos and your page are doing the work of a first message.

Feeld suits a man who can finish the sentence "I am here for ___." a dating coach's rule for any dating page is that it attracts whatever it says, and Feeld takes that further than other apps because the labels sit right there. A vague man makes himself hard to read, and the dislike comes fast.

It also suits a man who is comfortable with a quiet start. With no writing before a connection, you do not get a stack of chats on day one. You get fewer, and each one already includes a yes from her.

It suits a man who respects boundaries without being told. The app is open about desire, and openness does not mean she is open to you. Be warm and ask. coach lists coming across as too sexual among the most common mistakes on a dating page, and he puts it in the same family as being too gamey. A woman wants attraction to build, so let it.

It does not suit a man who is still deciding what he wants. If you have not decided, you will read every page as if it were written for you, and you will spend connections on women who want something else.

It does not suit a man whose photos are weak. With nothing said before the connection, the pictures are your whole pitch. My advice on photos is simple: clear light, a clear look at your face, and a set that shows a real life, where each photo tells her something specific about you.

Give it two honest weeks. Use good daylight photos, write a few lines that are true, and say plainly what you are after. Verify a photo if the app offers it, because it adds trust when you are a stranger asking to connect.

Then count three things: connections, conversations that turned into a plan, and plans that became a date. If the numbers are low, change one thing at a time. Swap the lead photo, then rewrite the words, then narrow your filters. Count again after each change.

If it gives you dates with women you were glad to meet, it earned a place on your phone. If it does not, move your time to the app that does.