What Is EliteSingles?

EliteSingles is a dating site and app for educated singles who want a relationship. Its own site describes it as serious dating for ambitious and educated singles. It is built for people who want a long-term relationship, not for casual swiping, and it works as a website and an app on one account.

EliteSingles says it is meant for people who want something serious. A man who is mostly after fun and low commitment will find the setup does not suit him, because the site says plainly that it is for long-term relationships and not for casual swiping.

The word "elite" can put men off, so it helps to know what the FAQ says. There is no salary requirement to join, and honesty in your profile matters most. It is not a club for high earners. It is a dating site for people who describe themselves as educated and ambitious.

The service agreement says a member must be at least 20 years old, and the site does not allow sugar daddy or sugar baby arrangements.

EliteSingles says its smart matchmaking uses detailed profiles, preferences and filters. Members can also browse local matches. In plain terms, it asks you to fill in more about yourself than a swipe app does, and it then suggests people based on that and on what you say you want.

That is a different rhythm from Tinder. You are not flicking through a stack of faces in a spare minute. You are reading fuller write-ups and choosing people to contact. For a man who writes well and likes to read a woman's background first, that is an advantage.

New members go through a manual profile review before they can use the site. Photo verification checks that the photos match the person. The FAQ is clear that verification is not a background check.

For you, that means two things. The women on the site have had their photos checked against the person, and your own page is reviewed before you are let in, so take care writing it. It also means you should not treat a verified photo as proof of someone's character.

Members can chat and use voice calls, and the same account works on the website and the app. A voice call is a quick way to move from typing to a real conversation.

Use it the way a dating coach advises for any app. Do not let a chat run on for weeks. Write something specific to her background, ask for a call or a date within a few messages, and keep it light.

It depends on what you want. If you are looking for a relationship and you are tired of the speed of the swipe apps, a site that says it screens for serious members is worth a trial. If you want to meet many women quickly, a bigger swipe app with more people in your area will move faster.

Whatever you choose, treat a paid plan as a test. My advice is to pay for a short stretch, track your conversations and dates, and drop it if nothing changes. The site's own claims about its members are descriptions, and the only result that counts is how many women in your area write back.

Be honest and specific in what you write, because the site says honesty matters most and the women reading it are looking for substance. Say what you do, what a good week looks like and what kind of relationship you want. Avoid a list of adjectives.

Pick clear, recent photos of your face. Then write to women with a real question about something in their write-up, and ask to talk soon. A man who does that on a site built for serious people stands out from the ones who send a single word.

EliteSingles is a site for educated singles who want a relationship. It has manual review, photo verification, detailed matching, and chat or voice calls. It is not a place for casual swiping, and it is not a background check. If that matches what you want, give it a short, tracked trial, and judge it by your results.