What Are the Best Dating Apps for Men Over 60?

None of these apps publishes how many men or women over 60 use it near you, so the honest way to choose is by what each says it is for. SilverSingles describes itself as a dating site for singles over 50. eHarmony and Match suit a man who wants something serious. Hinge, Bumble and Tinder are open to everyone. Test two, keep the one where your matches answer, and put your effort into the profile you bring to it.

SilverSingles describes itself on its own homepage as a dating site for singles over 50, built for that stage of life, with verified profiles. A man over 60 is exactly who it says it is for. That does not tell you how many women are on it near you, so look at who you actually see before you pay for anything.

eHarmony calls itself a dating site for people who know they want a meaningful relationship. New members take a Compatibility Quiz and see a Compatibility Score with each other member. At sign-up it asks whether a man wants Casual, Serious or Not sure.

For a man who knows he wants a partner, not a string of coffees, that is the point of the site. A Basic membership is free to start, so you can look before you commit.

Match shows Recommended profiles and Top Picks drawn from your preferences, such as faith, smoking, drinking, education and whether someone has or wants kids. You tap the heart to Like or the X to move on. Its higher tiers add search, so you can look for women yourself.

That suits a man who has settled priorities and does not want an app choosing his order. It asks more of you than a swipe does, which many men over 60 consider a good thing.

Hinge calls itself the dating app designed to be deleted. It shows you a woman's prompt answers and personal details, and a match starts with a Like on one photo or prompt. a dating coach says Hinge tends to do better than Tinder in major US cities.

Bumble says it wants members to find meaningful and authentic relationships. Both of you get one opening message after a match, within a time limit.

Tinder says its minimum age is 18 and that it is available in a large number of countries. coach says it has more of a hookup reputation, though relationships start there too.

Our view is that the mainstream apps are worth a short test even for a man in his 60s, as long as you do not expect them to sort by age for you. You will see all ages, so set your age range to the women you would genuinely like to meet.

a dating coach's advice for dating after thirty carries even more weight later in life. He says your biggest handicap is that you are not around eligible single women as often as you used to be, and the fix is to go where they are. Put up an online profile, but also join a club, a class or a group where the women you want to meet already go.

He also separates two kinds of older man: the one who is worldly, cultured and in good shape, and the one who has simply gotten older. Appearance matters, and so does presentation. Wear clothes that fit and are current, and look after your health, because your first impression decides which of the two she sees.

The apps ask for the same two things they ask of anyone. Pictures that show how you look now, and a few lines only you could have written. Neither depends on age.

coach tells older men to identify their dating goal. Are you looking to play the field, or to settle down? If you are unsure, you are likely to end up with neither.

Say what you want in one plain sentence. A profile that reads as looking for a hookup gets hookups, and one that says you want something lasting gets that. Do not rush into the first woman who shows interest, though. My warning is that neediness is unattractive, so look for the right person rather than a person.

Skip the lines every man writes, such as "gentleman who knows how to treat a lady." They are everywhere and women move past them.

Use details instead. Where you have traveled, what you cook badly, what you do on a Sunday. A woman can picture those, and they give her something to ask about.

Use recent pictures. A clear face shot in good light, one full length, one doing something you actually do, and one with friends or family. If you changed your hair or grew a beard, show it. A woman who meets a different man than the one she saw does not stay for the drink.

Test two apps, not six. Give them the same pictures and the same written lines, use them for a few weeks, and keep the one where women answer. My point is that algorithms and user bases differ, so some men fail on one and do well on another.

Keep sessions short. A few focused minutes a day beat a long weekend of scrolling, and they protect you from the tired feeling that makes men quit.

Write to women while the match is fresh. Comment on something specific she chose to show, keep it to a sentence or two, and suggest meeting after a handful of replies. Trade numbers once she agrees.

Meet in a public place the first time, tell a friend where you are going, and be wary of anyone who asks for money. Those are ordinary precautions on every app and no judgment on you.

Keep your expectations plain. You are not trying to win an app. You are trying to meet a few interesting women in person, and a date over coffee is the point of everything above.