What Are the Best Dating Apps for Men Over 40?

None of the pages we read from these apps gives a user count or an age breakdown, so the honest way to choose is by what each app says it is for. Test two or three, and keep the one where your matches and conversations show up. For a man over 50, SilverSingles describes itself as built for that stage of life.

eHarmony's homepage calls it a dating site for people who know they want a meaningful relationship. It says its members are serious about finding someone to build a lasting connection with, and at sign-up it asks each man who signs up whether he wants Casual, Serious or Not sure.

If you are over 40 and know you want something serious, that is the man eHarmony says it is for. It does not tell you how many women are on it near you, so check what you actually see.

SilverSingles describes itself on its own homepage as a dating site for singles over 50, built for that stage of life with verified profiles. A man in his 40s is not who it says it is for. A man over 50 can add it to the two or three apps he tests and judge it the same way, by the women he actually sees on it.

Hinge describes itself as designed to be deleted, built to get people out on dates. It shows a man a woman's prompt answers and personal details such as religion, height and politics.

Bumble says it exists to bring people closer to love and wants members to find meaningful and authentic relationships. It gives both people one opening message within a limited time.

Tinder says its minimum age is 18 and that it is available in a large number of countries. It describes itself as a place to meet people. Its recommendations use age, distance, interests and Likes and Nopes, with activity on the app the most important factor.

a dating coach says Tinder has a hookup reputation, while Hinge and Bumble have more of a relationship vibe. He adds that in the US, Hinge tends to be better than Tinder, especially in major cities.

Match shows Recommended profiles and Top Picks drawn from preferences such as faith, smoking, drinking, education and whether the person has or wants kids. It lets members set Must Have preferences with a subscription, and in select markets its search lets a man type what he wants.

That suits a man who knows his priorities and is tired of an app deciding the order. It asks more of you than a swipe does.

Our view is that every app above asks a man over 40 for the same two things it asks of anyone: photos that show how you look now, and a few lines only you could have written. A settled life and knowing what you want count in your favor on all of them, as we see it, so say what you are looking for in plain words.

a dating coach says a man should test several apps, because differences in each app's algorithm and in who is on it change personal results. Some men fail on one and do well on another.

A practical way to do that: choose two apps that match what you want, give them the same photos and the same written lines, use them regularly for a few weeks, and keep the one that answers. Do not run six at once. You will not have the time to message properly on any of them.

His biggest point on choosing an app is not about the app. It is about how you write your profile: one written like a man after a hookup gets hookups, and one that says you want something long-term gets that. Our view is that your photos say it too. For a man over 40 that is good news. It means the thing that decides your results is something you can change this week.