Like vs SuperCrush on Happn: What Is Different

A Like is secret. She never finds out you liked her unless she likes you back, and only then do you both learn it was mutual. A SuperCrush is not secret. She gets a notification, and she decides whether to respond to it or ignore it. The app calls the SuperCrush the best way to get noticed, and that visibility is exactly what you are choosing, for better and for worse.

Tapping the heart on someone sends a Like, and nothing happens on her side. There is no notification and no hint.

If she happens to like you too, the two Likes meet and you get a Crush, which is happn's word for a match. If she never likes you, she never knows you liked her. You lose nothing, and neither does she.

That privacy is the Like's whole strength. It lets you say yes to a woman without putting anything on the line. It also means she has to find you and decide on you under her own steam, with no nudge from you at all.

A SuperCrush does the opposite. It arrives as a notification, so she knows straight away that you picked her.

It can also carry a message. You can react to something specific she has put up, like a photo, her description or the place you crossed paths. Or you can send it with no words, and she is still notified.

Then the choice is hers. If she accepts, it becomes a Crush and the chat opens. If she refuses, the two of you will no longer cross paths on happn.

A Like says nothing until she has already decided she likes you too. By the time she learns about it, it is good news, because it arrives as a Crush.

A SuperCrush says something before she has decided anything. She sees that you picked her, reads whatever you wrote, and then looks at your page with that in mind. If your photos and your line are good, that extra attention works for you. If they are weak, it works against you, because she is now judging a man who has already shown his hand.

That is the real trade. A Like protects you. A SuperCrush exposes you, in exchange for being seen.

For most women on your Main Page, a Like is the right tool.

It costs you nothing. It gives nothing away. And it does not ask you to have something clever ready, which matters, because a strong signal with nothing behind it does more harm than good.

Use a Like when you are interested but have no particular reason you could put into words. Use it when you are going through a lot of people quickly. And use it when she is someone you would be happy to match with but would not be crushed to miss.

a dating coach's view of super likes and roses on the other apps sums up the case for it. They bring your interest to her attention more than a normal like would, which raises the chance she actually looks at you.

On happn that is the difference between hoping she finds you and making sure she does. A secret Like waits on her. A SuperCrush does not.

So a SuperCrush makes sense when three things are true. You would genuinely be pleased if she replied. You have something specific to say about her. And you would be annoyed to lose her to the chance that she never tapped the heart on you.

a dating coach is just as clear about the cost. A super like gives away a little of your position, because you have shown interest before she has decided anything about you. You make that back with good messaging, and only with good messaging.

That is why the words matter more than the star. Sending the strongest signal the app offers and following it with "hey" is worse than a plain Like. It tells her you think she is special, then shows you have nothing to say about her.

Keep it short and specific. a dating coach prefers commenting on what a woman wrote over commenting on her photos, because it reads as genuine rather than superficial. On happn, the place you crossed paths is an even easier hook. A light line about the café you apparently share gives her something to answer and hints at a date without pushing for one.

Like freely, but not blindly. Save the SuperCrush for the few women where you already know your opening line.

If you catch yourself about to send one and cannot think what to write, that is your answer. Send a Like instead, and keep the SuperCrush for someone you can actually say something to.

Either way, the choice only gets you as far as a Crush. The date comes from what you write after it.