Inner Circle's Rules on Screenshots and Respect

Inner Circle has zero tolerance for taking screenshots of another member's page or pictures. Its community guidelines say anyone who breaks this rule may have their account suspended. Its safety guidelines add a second rule: if a member asks you to stop contacting them, you must respect that. Both rules are short, and neither leaves much room for interpretation.

The guideline names two things: profiles and pictures. Capturing either one is against the rules, and the stated consequence is a possible suspension.

"Zero tolerance" is the important phrase. It means there is no small version of this that is acceptable. One screenshot of one woman's photo breaks the rule just as much as a folder full of them.

If you are ever unsure whether something counts, do not take the screenshot. Read the community guidelines yourself and stay on the safe side.

Every member put their photos and details on Inner Circle for the other members to see, not for anyone those members happen to know.

A screenshot takes that choice away from her. Once her picture is in your camera roll, she has no say in where it goes next: a friend's phone, a group chat, a post somewhere else. That fear is exactly the kind of thing that makes women wary of dating apps, and an app that wants women to feel safe has every reason to come down hard on it.

The rule protects men too. Women talk to each other, and a man known for passing around women's pictures loses far more than one account.

Men rarely break this rule out of malice. Usually they are just being careless.

The usual one is sending a friend a woman's profile to ask what he thinks. Another is saving a photo you like so you can look at it later. A third is capturing a funny line from her page to show someone. None of them feels like a big deal when you do it, and all three are precisely what the guideline bans.

The same goes for screenshotting her page before a date so you can remember her job or the name of her dog. The reason is innocent, and it is still a capture of her page. Ask her again over a drink instead. Most women would rather be asked than find out you kept notes.

If you want a friend's opinion on a woman, describe her. Tell him what she does, what she wrote and why you are interested. That gives him most of what he needs, and her page stays where she put it.

The second rule is even simpler. If a member asks you to stop contacting them, you stop.

It does not matter how she puts it. "Please stop writing to me", "I am not interested, leave me alone" and a one-word "stop" all mean the same thing, and none of them is an opening for a debate.

Not after one more message explaining yourself. Not after asking why. You stop, and you leave it there. The cleanest response is no response at all.

It also means not reaching her some other way. Looking her up on social media or writing to her somewhere else after she asked you to stop is the same contact by another road. So is making another account to try again.

Hearing "please stop" can sting, especially if you thought the conversation was going well. That is exactly the moment men make it worse.

Arguing never changes her answer. Asking for a reason puts her in the position of defending a decision she does not owe you. Sending a hurt or sarcastic parting line turns a small disappointment into the story she tells her friends. None of it gets you anything, and all of it risks the account you are still using to meet other women.

Both rules line up with what good dating advice says anyway.

a dating coach teaches men to leave gracefully when an interaction is not going their way. End it in a friendly way, and the other person will almost always end it pleasantly too. A woman who says no and gets good grace back remembers a decent man, not a rejection.

The same goes for how you treat what women share with you. A man who keeps a woman's pictures to himself, takes a no well, and moves on to the next conversation is the man women feel safe meeting. On any dating app, that reputation is worth more than one match.