A yellow tick means Inner Circle has verified that a well-known member, such as a celebrity or an influencer, is genuine. It confirms she is who she appears to be. Inner Circle's own guidelines add that the tick is information, not an invitation. It should not prompt you to connect unless you have a genuine reason to think the two of you would click.

What the tick confirms

The tick answers one question: is this person real? Inner Circle may verify high-profile members this way to show that the profile is genuine, so you are not looking at a fan account or a fake.

That is useful. It is also all it does. The tick is a fact about her identity, and nothing more.

What it does not tell you

The tick says nothing about whether she would like you, whether she wants what you want, or whether she is looking for more attention than she already gets.

Inner Circle's guidelines make this point directly. The tick is information, not an invitation. It is not a sign that she wants to hear from you, and it is not a reason to write to her that you would not have had otherwise.

Fame is the least useful thing to know about her

a dating coach separates two kinds of value. Superficial value is what an outsider can see straight away, like good looks or being a celebrity. Real value is what shows up the longer someone spends with you: what you are actually like to be around.

A yellow tick tells you about her superficial value only. It cannot tell you whether an evening with her would be fun, whether you would make each other laugh, or whether you would want a second date. Those are the things that matter, and you only find them out the ordinary way.

He is also blunt about pedestals. Thinking of a woman as out of your league and putting her above you only makes it harder to attract her. A tick can put a woman on a pedestal before you have read a word she wrote. Do not let it.

When you do have a reason to reach out

Inner Circle's test is whether you have a genuine reason to think you would click. A simple way to apply it: would you want to meet her if the tick were not there?

A real reason looks like something specific. You both grew up in the same small town. She wrote about a hobby you take seriously. Her page makes her sound like someone you would get on with, fame aside. If you can name a reason like that, you have one.

If the only reason is that she is famous, you do not. Skip her and put your attention on someone you actually have something to say to.

Be honest with yourself here. When you want to talk to someone famous, it is easy to find a reason after the fact. A reason you would not have noticed on anyone else's page is not really a reason.

When there is no tick

The guidelines say well-known members may be verified with the tick, so a missing tick does not prove much either way. You may recognize a woman who has none.

The advice does not change. Write to the woman on the page, not to the name you recognize, and only if you would want to meet her anyway.

How to write to her like anyone else

If you do write, send the message you would send any woman you liked.

Make it about something on her page that has nothing to do with her fame. Keep it short and light. Do not mention her followers, her work or the fact that you recognize her. Opening as a fan puts you in the audience rather than across the table.

a dating coach's best first messages present him as the one deciding whether he likes her. That is hard to pull off if your first line admits you are a fan. Leave the fame out, and you are just a man who noticed something interesting about her.

Treat her like any of your matches

If she replies, carry on as you would with anyone. Tease her a little, find out what she is like, and suggest a plan when the conversation is warm.

Be discreet as well. Inner Circle has zero tolerance for screenshotting members' profiles or pictures. A woman in the public eye has every reason to watch where her messages end up. The man who treats her like a normal woman, and keeps what she shares to himself, is the one she will feel comfortable meeting.