How to Undo a Pass on Boo

Tap the yellow lightning bolt on the Match page to open Boo's power-ups, then use Time Travel, which rewinds to the last person you passed. If you want more than the last one back, Revival shows you all your past souls again. Boo Infinity may include unlimited Time Travel, which is worth knowing if you undo passes often.

Time Travel is the one to reach for when your thumb moved faster than your brain. You pass on someone, realize a second later she was exactly your type, tap the lightning bolt, and Time Travel takes you back to her.

It goes back to the last person you passed. So the simplest habit is to use it straight away, before you pass on anyone else. The longer you keep going, the further she slips from being the last one.

Revival is the wider net. It shows all your past souls again, so you can go back through people you already saw.

That is useful after a careless session. If you spent ten minutes on the train flicking through Boo while half listening to a podcast, Revival gives you the chance to look again properly, with your full attention this time.

Boo Infinity may include unlimited Time Travel. If you find yourself rewinding most days, that is one more thing to weigh when you decide whether the subscription is worth it for you.

But notice what it means if you are rewinding most days. You are going too fast. The more useful change costs nothing at all: slow down.

Most accidental passes come from speed. A man opens the app with five minutes to kill and moves through people the way he clears his inbox. He decides on the first photo in half a second, and sometimes his thumb decides for him.

a dating coach has watched men try to beat the dating apps by saying yes to nearly everyone, and he says it backfires. An app that sees you liking everyone learns you are unselective, and he believes it then shows you fewer attractive women. The same rush that produces careless yeses produces accidental noes.

So give each person a real look. Check the photos past the first one. Read what she wrote. It takes a little longer, but you will need Time Travel far less, and the hearts you do send will mean more.

Getting her back is only useful if you do something with it. If she looked good enough to rewind for, she is worth a real reaction, not a reflex heart you forget about.

If you send a direct message, build it around one detail she chose to share, like where a photo was taken or a line she wrote, and give it a little personality. That beats any compliment about how she looks. Keep it to a line or two. If you just send a heart, make sure your own first photo and written answers are the kind a woman would want to reply to, because that is what she will look at next.

Revival has a second use that most men never think of. Go back through a batch of women you passed and ask yourself why you passed on each one.

Often the answer is the first photo. A dark picture, a group shot where you could not tell which one she was, a photo from so far away you could not see her face. You may have passed on a woman you would happily have taken out, purely because her first photo did her no favors.

Women do exactly the same thing to you, in about the same half second. So if Revival shows you that you are passing on people over bad first photos, take the hint and look hard at your own. Your first photo decides whether she looks any further, so it should show your face plainly, in good light, with nobody else in the frame.

One small caution. Revival and Time Travel make it tempting to treat every pass as reversible, so you pass carelessly and promise yourself you will go back later. That turns one careful decision into two careless ones, and later rarely comes.

Look properly the first time. Pass freely on the women who are clearly not for you, heart the ones you would genuinely take for a drink, and keep the rewind for the real slips. Used that way, it saves you the occasional good match without becoming the way you use the app.