How Much Time Should You Spend Doing Daygame Each Week?

a dating coach's minimum is to go out about three times a week and do at least three approaches each time. That is nine approaches a week, spread across three days. Short outings done often beat one long outing done rarely, because the feedback loop gets faster and the nerves never settle back to zero.

If you have more time, add approaches before you add hours.

a dating coach ties getting good to the feedback loop: the faster you go out, learn something and go out again, the faster you improve. Three outings a week keeps that loop short.

He gives a second reason. If you go out on a Friday, a Saturday and a Tuesday, the longest gap between approaches is small, and daygame feels like part of your life, not an event you have to psych yourself up for. A man who goes once every two weeks starts from scratch each time.

The first approach of any outing is the hardest. a dating coach says it is the one you struggle with most and feel most nervous about. If you do one approach and go home, your whole session is that single hard moment.

Three approaches means the second and third are easier, and you see a little variety. An approach does not take long, so three of them fit into a short outing.

One reaction from one woman tells you very little, and treating it as a verdict gives one random stranger too much importance. a dating coach likes a bigger sample for that reason. If you can manage five approaches per outing three times a week, or three approaches five times a week, he calls that better than the minimum.

More sets is the way to improve faster. More hours standing around is not.

This is an example of the minimum, built from the numbers above. Adjust it to your life.

• Three outings, on days that suit your schedule, such as one weeknight, one weekend morning and one weekend afternoon.
• At least three approaches in each, so at least nine in the week.
• A few minutes after each outing to write down what happened and what you want to change next time.

a dating coach also suggests a short review habit: sit down a few times a week and think about your approaches and what you want to do differently on the next outing. A written plan makes the next outing easier to start.

Choose places before you go, so you are not wandering. a dating coach's favorite daygame venues are parks, outdoor malls and beaches, where women are relaxed and have time. He also says that the closer a venue is to where you live, the better, because if an approach goes well it is easier to follow up with a woman who lives nearby.

Vary the places. Doing every outing in the same spot gets stale and makes you comfortable in one setting only.

Approach any time you happen to see someone, too. a dating coach says the best place to do daygame is everywhere, and there is no excuse for skipping a woman at the coffee shop because you are not on a formal session.

Even if you can manage only one outing a week, do it, and keep it to three approaches. A short outing you keep beats a bigger plan you drop. The risk is that long gaps let your nerves rebuild between outings.

If your schedule is crowded, shorter sessions near home or work often work better than a big trip.

Add approaches, not just hours. Raise the count per outing before you add a fourth day. And spend the extra time on review, because a week of approaches that nobody examines teaches less than half as many that you look at closely.

The other thing worth adding is feedback. Going out alone is the slow part of this, since you cannot see your own habits.

A Cold Approach Bootcamp compresses a lot of practice into a few days. Every training day is two four-hour blocks in the field, so three days is 24 hours of coaching, with live correction on each approach and feedback after every set. You can use it to get the habits right, then keep the weekly rhythm above on your own with the written practice plan you leave with.

It runs in Miami and New York, as Group at a 3:1 ratio or Private for one, two or three days. After the program you keep access to the community Slack.