We know of no user count for Elite Singles that anyone outside the company can check, so we will not quote one. Any figure you find is the company's own claim or a guess. The number that decides whether the site works for you is smaller and closer to home. How many women near you, in your age range, are active on it this week? And how many matches and replies do you get from them? You can count that yourself.
Why a big total does not help
A total across a whole country says almost nothing about your city on a Tuesday night. A site can be busy in one metro area and quiet two hours away.
Totals also count everyone who ever signed up. Many of those people stopped logging in long ago. The only slice that counts is the active one, close to you, and interested in a man like you.
There is a second reason the headline number misleads. Elite Singles is built for people who want a relationship, so its members are a narrower group than a mass-market app draws. A smaller site with the right people can serve you better than a huge one full of people who want something else.
What you can learn before you pay
You cannot count anything from outside. New members go through a manual review before they can use the site, so you build your page first and wait for approval. Do not assume you can browse women before you are in.
Once you are in, the site shows local matches and lets you set filters. That is where the real number lives. Sign up free first and see what the site shows you before you pay for anything, since a subscription only helps if there are women worth writing to.
Treat the first look as a sample. A short, honest count tells you more than any figure the company could print.
A one-week count
Make it a small, written test. For seven days, open the site once a day and note four things.
First, how many women appear who are in your age range and near enough to meet on a weeknight. Second, how many of those you would honestly take out. Third, how many are new that day and how many you already saw. Fourth, how many have been active recently, if the site shows it.
If a steady stream of new women arrives, the pool near you is healthy. If the same faces return by day three, you have run out of fresh people for your settings.
What a thin pool means
A thin pool is a fact about your area, not a verdict on you. Widen the distance to the farthest you would really travel for a first date. Widen the age range by a couple of years at each end.
Her settings work on you too. A woman who caps her age range below yours never sees you, so a wider range on your side only brings in women whose own filters include you.
If you do all that and the pool is still small, run a second app beside it. a dating coach says a man does not have to be loyal to one app. Test two, push the one that works, and drop the other.
Why a smaller pool can still suit you
A smaller pool makes each woman matter more. On a swipe app a man can spend an hour tapping faces and learn nothing. On a site that asks women for fuller pages, you read more before you write, and your first message can refer to something real.
coach also warns against liking almost everyone. His view is that an app that watches a man like every woman has little to go on and tends to show him fewer of its best. Being selective is the better habit on any site, and a small pool makes it the default.
The tradeoff is volume. If few women use the site near you, you will run dry, and you will want another source of dates beside it.
What to do with the answer
If the count is healthy, the work moves to the part that decides your results. Write a page that sounds like one specific man. Open each conversation with a detail from hers. Suggest a call or a drink after a few messages, since a full pool only helps if some chats become dates.
If the count is thin, do not pay for a long plan. If you do subscribe, take the shortest one, turn off auto-renewal on the day you buy, and read the checkout screen for the price you will be charged.
The best answer to how many users it has is how many of them it shows you, and how many of those write back.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.