How Do You Prepare for a Dating Bootcamp the Week Before?

Keep it small. Say hello to a few strangers, write down the two or three things you most want fixed, and make sure the days are really clear. You do not need to memorize lines, reach a number of approaches or fix your nerves. The coach is there to start with where you are, so preparing too hard can make you more nervous than you need to be.

• No prior approach experience is required, and there is no skill test.
• Every training day is two four-hour coaching blocks in the field, eight hours in all.
• Daygame and nightgame are both part of the program, with the mix arranged to suit you.
• After you pay, an email asks which city you want, Miami or New York, and for your availability.
• You do not need lines. Your coach works on what you actually say.

The most useful preparation is protecting the time. A training day is eight hours of walking, talking and being coached. It is not an afternoon you can squeeze between meetings or a day you plan to check email through.

Move work calls off the training days. Tell the people who usually reach you that you will be away. If you are flying in, give yourself time to arrive before the first block, since being rushed and tired on the first morning makes every approach harder.

You do not need many. Pick a small, easy target and hit it in the week before you go: say hello to the person making your coffee, ask a stranger a plain question about the street, or comment on something at a shop counter. The point is to get your voice out of your head and into the world a few times.

a dating coach's standard for a man who locks up is deliberately low: "If you've got approach anxiety, your standard should be dirt simple: say 'Hey.'" Meeting that standard a handful of times before you arrive means the first approach with your coach is not the first one in months.

Do not try to approach women every day just to arrive "warmed up." If it turns the week into a test you can fail, you will walk in tense.

Take ten minutes and write answers to three questions:

1. Where do I get stuck? Before I walk over, in the first thirty seconds, or when it is time to ask for her number?
2. What has happened when I tried this alone?
3. What would a good result look like for me after these days?

Hand the list to your coach on the first morning. Many men have never said these out loud, and putting them on paper helps the coach decide where to start. One of our students had spent three years approaching on his own with little to show for it. He had no list at all. Once a coach watched him in the field, the problem was obvious: he talked for about thirty seconds before he let her say a word.

These are ordinary things, and they matter on a day with eight hours of standing and talking.

• Sleep well the nights before, since tired men hesitate more.
• Eat properly on training days so you are not light-headed at hour six.
• Keep drinking light the night before the first day, so the morning is not a fight.
• Look after how you present yourself, the same way you would for any day you expect to talk to people you want to impress.

The coach will give you meeting, lodging and preparation details after you book, so you do not have to guess about logistics on your own.

Do not memorize lines. A line you learned from a video does not come out of your mouth the way you rehearsed it, and the coach would rather hear what you say naturally. a dating coach says the standard to aim for is simple: "An approach is just this: You walked up and made a noise. That's it. That's a win."

Do not binge advice. Watching ten more videos the night before adds opinions and no repetitions.

Do not decide in advance that you are too far gone. Men with the worst hesitation are exactly who the program is built around.

Do not stack the week with other stress. A man who arrives drained from a work crisis will have less energy for the one thing he came to do.

If you have not yet decided on a format, decide in the week before so nothing is left hanging. Group is three consecutive days at no more than three students per coach, and Private is fully one-on-one for one, two or three days. If being watched by other men is what worries you, Private removes it. Group or Private compares them.

Should I practice approaching at home first?

A few easy hellos help. Treating the week as a full dress rehearsal does not. Your coach is there to teach you the rest.

Do I need to know my approach style?

No. Daygame and nightgame are mixed to suit you, and your coach decides the order with you.

What if I get scared the night before?

That is normal. Remember that the first goal is to say hello, and your coach is next to you.

What happens at the end?

You leave with a written practice plan and access to the community Slack. The package has no follow-up call, so plan to go out again within a few days.