How Do You Manage Tinder Notifications?

You can manage Tinder notifications in two places. Inside the app, open Settings and then Notifications, where you control both email and push alerts. On your phone, go to Settings, then Notifications, then Tinder on an iPhone, or open the Settings app, then Notifications, then Tinder on Android.

Tinder's own notification settings are a few taps from the main screen.

1. Tap the profile icon.
2. Go to Settings.
3. Tap Notifications.

This screen covers both email and push notifications. Go through it once and decide which ones you actually want.

Your phone has its own switch for Tinder's alerts, and it sits outside the app.

On an iPhone: open Settings, tap Notifications, then tap Tinder.

On Android: open the Settings app, tap Notifications, then tap Tinder.

This decides whether your phone lets Tinder's alerts through at all.

The two sets of settings work together. When Tinder's alerts stop arriving, its own advice is to check that notifications are turned on in both places: in your device settings and in the app. A push alert needs permission from both to reach you.

So if you turn something off in one place and it keeps buzzing, or turn it on and nothing arrives, look at the other one.

The simplest rule is that alerts about people are worth having and most other alerts are not.

A new match, or a message from a woman you are talking to, is worth knowing about. Those are the things that turn into dates. Anything that is Tinder encouraging you to come back and use the app can go to email, or be switched off, without costing you anything.

One exception is worth knowing. Tinder's Swipe Surge, a stretch when activity on the app spikes, has no set time, and push notifications are the only way to hear about one. If you care about catching Surges, you will need push turned on. Decide whether that is worth the extra interruptions.

Notifications are useful, but they have a side effect men do not notice. With every alert switched on, replying the second a message lands becomes a reflex.

a dating coach's texting advice warns against exactly that. If a woman takes six hours to answer and you answer in ten seconds, every time, you look like a man sitting by his phone waiting for her. By his account, somewhere between an hour and a few hours is a normal gap. It shows you check your phone like a person with a life, not like someone whose day revolves around her.

He is just as clear that the gap should not become a game. If she takes two days to answer, waiting two days yourself just lets the conversation die. The point is not to match her delays. It is to avoid looking like her message was the most important event in your day.

So treat an alert as information, not an instruction. You know she wrote back. You do not have to answer before you have finished your coffee.

a dating coach keeps his own app time to about half an hour a day, split into two blocks, one in the morning and one in the evening. In each block he does the most valuable things first.

His order goes like this. First, the women closest to a date, where he pins down plans. Next, new matches he has not written to yet. Only after that does he go looking for more people. By his account, he often swipes only every few days, because the apps give diminishing returns if you hit them for new people day after day.

Notifications can support that rhythm or wreck it. A good setup keeps alerts for matches and messages from women, so nothing important slips past, and drops the rest. Then you open the app at your set times, handle what is waiting in that order, and put the phone down.

The conversations that are going well should not stay in the app for long anyway. a dating coach's approach is to move a woman onto regular texting once she is clearly enjoying the conversation. By then she is closer to a date, and she can reach you the normal way. After that, her messages arrive as ordinary texts, and Tinder's alert settings stop mattering for her at all.

Sometimes you set all this up and still get no alerts. Tinder's help pages say that when push notifications suddenly stop, it is more than likely a temporary problem on its side. Check both sets of switches, then give it time.

In the meantime, a set routine protects you. A man who opens the app twice a day at set times never leaves a woman waiting three days just because his phone stayed quiet.