Open Tinder, tap the profile icon, then tap the gray checkmark next to your name and select Continue when you see Get Verified. Frame your face in the oval and follow the prompts to record a short video selfie; Tinder says processing should only take a few minutes. You get the badge if you pass the liveness check and your profile has a clear solo face photo that looks like the face in your video.
The steps in order
- Open Tinder and tap the profile icon.
- Tap the gray checkmark next to your name.
- Select Continue on the Get Verified screen.
- Allow camera access when Tinder asks for it.
- Frame your face inside the oval and follow the prompts to record a short video selfie.
- Wait for processing, which Tinder says should only take a few minutes.
If both checks pass, the badge appears on your account. If it does not, the last section below covers what to look at.
What Tinder is checking
Two things have to be true for the badge to appear, and most men only think about the first.
The first is the liveness check. Your video has to show a real, live person, which is why Tinder has you follow prompts on screen instead of uploading a picture.
The second is the comparison. Your profile needs a clear solo photo of your face, and that face has to look like the one in your video. Pass the liveness check with a set made entirely of group shots and there is nothing to compare, so no badge.
Set up the photo it compares you against
Do this before you record anything. Choose, or take, one photo where you are alone, your whole face is visible, and it looks like you do now. No sunglasses, no cap pulled low, no friend's arm across your jaw.
This is also the most useful photo you can have for women, so it is worth doing properly. Hand your phone to a friend, go outside while it is still light, and let them fire off thirty shots while you talk to them instead of posing. One of those will catch you relaxed, and relaxed is what you want.
Sort out the basics before that afternoon. A fresh haircut, a shirt that fits at the shoulders and a clean shave or a tidy beard all show in a close photo of your face. a dating coach credits much of how good he looks in photos to exactly these choices rather than to his genes. The profile coaching guides argue that shots which look like they came off an ordinary phone, taken by someone who knows you, beat staged studio work because they look real.
When you are done, put that photo near the front of your set.
Why the badge is worth a few minutes
Women on the apps are cautious for good reason. The One Percent guides note that they are wary of fake accounts and of men who look too good to be true. A badge answers that worry before you have typed a word.
It can also decide whether you get to talk to her at all. Tinder has a setting called Photo Verified Chat that lets a verified member receive messages only from other verified people. If a woman you like has it on, you will be sent to verification before your first line can reach her. Doing it now saves you that detour later.
The badge is where profile optimization starts
Verification proves your photos are you. It does not prove they are good, and it says nothing about your bio.
The One Percent material describes the profile as the marketing and the conversation as the sales. When the marketing does its job, the talking gets easy. The same guides point out that one opening line can land very differently depending on the page behind it. Next to a weak page, playful banter reads as cheesy. Next to a strong one, she is more open, and you do not have to work nearly as hard. So once the badge is on, read your bio the way a stranger would.
a dating coach's rule is to show rather than tell. Cut "fun, easygoing, loves to travel" and put in one detail she could picture and ask about. The pickup basketball game you have not missed in two years. The terrible karaoke song you refuse to retire. A verified face next to a line like that gives her a real person to write to.
If the badge does not show up
Go back to the two conditions. If the video was dark, blurry or your face drifted out of the oval, record it again facing a window. If the video was fine, the likelier problem is your photos. Add one clear, recent solo shot of your face and run verification again.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.