Yes. The League lets you undo an X vote, and you pay for it with League Tickets, the app's in-app currency. Votes are private, so the woman you passed on never finds out, and undoing it gives you another chance to decide.
What undoing an X vote costs
Undoing an X vote is paid for with League Tickets, and it sits among the cheapest things tickets buy, next to a Power Move. You can buy tickets in bundles from the My Account or Settings page, or earn them by endorsing a friend.
Tickets are final once you spend them. So treat an undo as what it is: a small fee for a second look. That is worth paying for a woman you genuinely regret passing on. It is not worth paying out of habit.
Keep an eye on how often you reach for it. An occasional undo is a normal slip. Several a week means you are voting faster than you can see, and the fix is to slow down, not to buy more tickets.
Your votes stay private
The League says votes are private. She is never told that you passed on her. Because votes are private, taking one back is private too.
That takes the awkwardness out of it. She gets no notice, no message and no hint that anything happened. It is you giving yourself another chance to decide.
Not voting keeps her in view
There is a free alternative to the undo, and it works before the mistake rather than after it. The League says that if you do not vote on a profile, it may reappear until you decide.
So if you are unsure about a woman, do not rush an X just to clear the screen. Leave her without a vote. She may come back around, and you can decide when you have a quiet minute to look properly.
Why careless passes happen on dating apps
Most regretted passes are not slips of the thumb. They come from speed.
A man opens the app tired at the end of a long day and goes through people as fast as the screen allows. Every app makes that easy, and it leads to X votes on women who deserved a closer look. Her first photo was a group shot in a dim bar. What she wrote was funny, but he never read that far.
a dating coach's routine is built to avoid exactly that. He gives the apps two short sittings a day, around thirty minutes in total, instead of one long, bleary session at night. Fresh attention makes fewer careless calls than the fourth hour of the same evening.
Look at everything before you vote
Before you tap X, flick through every photo she posted and read her words. It takes seconds.
Her first picture might be a group shot or something taken from the far side of a room, while the rest show a woman you would happily take for a drink. One weak picture tells you less than it seems to.
Read her words as well. What a woman chooses to write about herself is usually the best material for a first message, so it pays to see it before you decide.
Do not vote yes on everyone to be safe
The opposite habit causes its own problems. Some men, stung by one regretted pass, start liking everyone so they never need an undo again.
That backfires. You end up matched with women you do not want to talk to, and those conversations crowd out the ones you care about. My experience across the apps is that choosiness pays. He has found that a man who holds back on the lukewarm ones gets treated as choosier, and may start seeing more of the women he really wants. Vote yes on the women you would genuinely ask for a drink. Pass on the rest without guilt, and keep the undo for the rare one you truly regret.
After you bring her back
Undo the X, then vote the way you meant to the first time. If she likes you back and you match, write to her that day.
Keep the first message short and about something on her page, ideally something she wrote. Give her an easy question to answer. Do not mention the undo. She never knew about the X, and there is no reason to tell her. The undo gave you a second look at her. What you write decides whether it was worth the ticket.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.