Are Hinge Comments Anonymous?

No. A Hinge comment is never anonymous. When you add a comment to a Like, it arrives in her incoming Likes tied to you, and she chooses to match or skip with your photos and answers in front of her. Even a comment hidden by her Comment Filter still comes with the sender attached. There is no secret-admirer mode, so write every comment as something you are willing to be known for.

On Hinge you send a Like by tapping the heart on a photo or a prompt, and you can add a comment to it. The Like and the comment go to her together.

In her incoming Likes, each one is tied to the profile of the man who sent it. She sees who you are, what you look like and what you wrote, and then she decides whether to match with you or skip you. Nothing about the comment can be separated from the man who sent it.

Hinge has a Comment Filter. A woman can turn on its Auto Filter, and she can add her own words, phrases or emojis to hide. Many men assume a hidden comment means a hidden sender. It does not.

When a comment is hidden by the filter, the sender's profile shows up in her Hidden Likes category with the note Comment Hidden. She can open that profile and read the full comment. From there she can match, skip or report you, or delete the like without reading it.

You are not told when this happens. Hinge says the sender is not told when a comment was hidden by someone's Comment Filter. So the worst case is a crude comment that a woman can still open, with your profile beside it, and you never learn why she did not answer.

Because the comment is signed by your whole profile, it works like the first thing you say in person. A woman reading it is not weighing the words alone. She is weighing the words against the man in your photos.

That is good news for a man with a decent profile, since a thoughtful line from him reads as genuine. It is bad news for a man who sends something crude because he thinks nobody can tie it to him. She can, and she can report it.

A plain rule helps: write only what you would be comfortable saying to her face at a coffee shop.

Hinge says that adding a comment to your Like makes it more likely to get a response. That fits a dating coach's advice on first messages, which is to find something unusual in her page and comment on it, ideally with a light tease, and to keep it short. He adds that a comment on something she wrote usually looks more genuine than one on a photo.

So a signed, specific comment is the point. It tells her that you read her page, and it gives her a thing to answer. A like with no comment is a thumbs up from a stranger, and a comment with her name on the subject is the start of a conversation.

React to one detail. Pick a sentence in one of her answers or one object in a photo, and respond to it as a person would. A short question works, and so does a small joke about something she said.

Skip the compliments on her looks, since she gets them all day, and skip anything you would not want read aloud. If you cannot think of anything honest to say about a woman's page, a like without a comment is better than a lazy one. A weak comment is a poor way to be remembered.

If every comment you send carries your profile with it, your profile is doing half the work. Look at it the way she will. Is your first photo a clear shot of your face in daylight? Do your answers sound like a man talking? A good comment on top of a weak page still ends in a skip.