What Happens When You Leave a Comment on Hinge?

Your comment is sent along with your like, and she sees both together. After you send it, her page disappears from your Discover feed until she responds. If she likes you back, she appears as a new match and you can start chatting. If her Comment Filter catches your comment, it goes to her Hidden Likes, and you are not told.

When you like a photo or a prompt on Hinge, you can add a comment to the like. She receives the like with your words attached, so the first thing she knows about you is the comment.

Hinge says adding a comment makes a like more likely to get a response. That makes sense, since a comment gives her something to answer, and a bare like gives her only a decision.

How quickly she gets to it depends on how often she opens the app and how many other likes are waiting.

Almost nothing, and that is by design.

After you send a like, the profile disappears from your Discover feed until the person responds. You cannot look at the people you have liked or commented on until they choose to match with you.

If she likes you back, she appears as a new match and you can start chatting. Until then you are waiting, and there is nothing to check.

Hinge has a feature called Comment Filter. A member can turn it on to automatically filter disrespectful comments, and can block their own list of words, phrases or emojis.

When a comment is filtered, the like is not deleted. The profile appears only in the recipient's Hidden Likes, with a note reading Comment Hidden. The sender is not told.

For a man, this is the part worth understanding. A comment that is crude, sexual, insulting or built around a word she has blocked can land in a separate folder, away from her main Likes You. You will then see the same silence you would see from a woman who was not interested. You will have no way to tell the difference.

The aim is to get through the filter and to give her something she wants to answer.

Keep it respectful, and keep it short. My advice is that shorter is generally better, and that commenting on a prompt tends to seem more genuine and less superficial than commenting on a photo. There are exceptions, but it is a good default.

Refer to something specific that she wrote. "Your answer about the worst hike you ever did made me laugh, because mine ended in a tow truck" gives her a way in. "Hey" and "you're gorgeous" give her nothing, and the second is the kind of line that crosses into the hidden folder.

Ask about it or tie it to your own life, but keep it easy. A question she can answer in one line works better than one that takes a paragraph.

Skip anything about her body, anything sexual, and anything that could read as a test or a dig. Even a joke that you think is playful can look disrespectful to a stranger who has never met you.

Silence has several possible meanings, and none of them is a sign to send more.

She may not have seen it yet. She may have seen it and passed. Her filter may have hidden it, and Hinge does not tell you that.

You cannot find out which. So do not try to solve it with a follow-up. Move on, and put the same care into the next like you send, with a comment written for that particular woman.

The reverse also helps you understand the feature. If you turn Comment Filter on, you will see fewer crude comments, and the ones it catches sit in Hidden Likes with the note Comment Hidden. It is your folder and your call.

A comment travels with the like, you cannot see her again until she responds, and a filter can quietly hide a disrespectful one. Write a short comment about something specific on her page, keep it respectful, and do not read anything into silence.