What to Write in Your Raya Bio

Write two or three short sentences that tell her something your photos cannot: what you actually do with your days, one specific thing you care about, and something easy for her to reply to. The Raya bio is brief, and it sits next to your photos, your song, your city and your Instagram username, so it does not need to list your job or your achievements. Raya's terms ban posting anything overtly self-promotional, and they ban using the app to promote a business.

Raya's privacy policy says other members see your biography along with your first name, age, city of residence, hometown, photos and Instagram username. PureWow describes the bio as brief, two to three sentences at most, shown with a few photos and a song.

That context tells you what the bio is for. Your photos already show your face and your life. Your Instagram already shows more of both. The bio is the one place where she hears your voice, so use it for the things a photo cannot carry: a detail, an opinion, a bit of humor.

The most common Raya bio is a résumé in miniature. A job title, a company, a city and a list of places he has been. All of it is either shown elsewhere on your page or says nothing about how an evening with you would go.

Leave out the list of adjectives too. "Adventurous, ambitious, loyal" could be anyone, and she has read it a hundred times.

And leave out anything that sells. Raya's terms say the service is for personal use only. You may not promote a business or solicit members. You may not post anything inaccurate or misleading. And you may not be overtly and repeatedly self-promotional. No links to your company, no pitch for your podcast, no line about what you can do for her career.

If you are stuck, use this shape.

The first sentence says what you actually do with your time, as specifically as you can. Not "I love to travel" but "I spend most weekends somewhere with a trailhead and bad phone signal."

The second sentence gives her a detail or an opinion. Something small and true that has some personality in it.

The third sentence, if you use one, is a hook: something she can easily answer, argue with, or tease you about.

That is it. Three sentences with a real person in them beat a paragraph of claims.

Weak: "Entrepreneur. Love travel, good food and good company."

Better: "I run a small coffee roastery, which mostly means I am up before everyone and very opinionated about beans. Losing a long argument with a sourdough starter. Tell me your go-to order and I will judge it gently."

The better one shows what his days look like, gives her a funny detail, and ends on an invitation to reply. It also passes Raya's rule, because it mentions his work without selling it.

Weak: "Just a normal guy looking for something real."

Better: "Teacher by day, mediocre point guard in a Tuesday night league. I cook a very good risotto and a very bad everything else. Best concert you have ever been to?"

The better one is specific, a little self-deprecating, and ends on a question anyone can answer.

Raya's terms say you may not lie about who you are, your status or your qualifications. Beyond the rule, a stretched bio just does not survive contact. Your Instagram is one tap away, and a first date is where every exaggeration gets checked.

a dating coach makes the same point about photos: presentation only works when the value behind it is real. Write the bio for the man who will actually turn up.

A good bio does not just help her decide. It gives both of you something to talk about.

When she writes to you, a specific bio gives her an easy way in. When you write to her, you can pick up on whatever she reacted to. The sourdough, the risotto, the concert question: each one is a conversation already half started. A bio that says nothing leaves both of you starting from zero.

Before you save it, read it out loud. If you could say it to a friend over dinner without wincing, keep it. If it sounds like a LinkedIn summary or a movie trailer, cut it back until it sounds like you.