Missed Connections needs While Using the App location access, which is the same access Tinder already uses to show you people to swipe on. You can choose Always location access if you want more relevant Drops, but Tinder says Always is not required for Missed Connections to work.
The two settings that matter
Your phone gives Tinder location access at different levels, and two of them matter here.
While Using the App lets Tinder use your location when the app is open and in use. Always lets it use your location in the background too, even when you are not in the app.
For Missed Connections, the first one is the requirement. The second one is optional.
What While Using the App gives you
While Using the App is enough for Missed Connections to work at all. It is also exactly what your normal recommendations need, so if Tinder already shows you people nearby, you are already set up.
In practice, most men never need to touch this setting. If the rest of Tinder works for you, Missed Connections can work too.
What Always adds
Tinder says choosing Always can give you more relevant Drops. That makes sense when you think about how a Drop is built. The feature looks at who was near you around the same time during the past week. With Always on, Tinder can know about more of the places your week actually took you, not only the moments when the app was open.
So Always is a trade. You give Tinder more of your location, and in return your Drops can reflect more of your real routine.
Choosing Always does not make your location visible to anyone. Tinder says Drops never reveal your precise or real-time location, or anyone else's, and that holds whichever setting you pick. Always changes how much Tinder can use to build your Drops. It does not change what other people see.
That is worth knowing if the setting sounds more invasive than it is. The trade is between you and Tinder, not between you and the women in your Drops.
Which one to choose
Choose based on how you feel about location, not on what you think will get you more attention.
If you are relaxed about it and like the idea of the feature, Always may give you a better weekly list. If you would rather keep background location off, While Using the App is fine. Missed Connections still works, and your normal recommendations are unaffected either way.
If you are unsure, start with While Using the App. It is all the feature needs, and you can move to Always later if your Drops feel thin.
You change this in your phone's own settings for Tinder, where the location options for the app are listed. Pick one, then leave it alone. Flicking it back and forth every week does nothing useful.
If you do not want Drops at all
Location access and Missed Connections are separate choices. If you would rather not be in Drops at all, Tinder has a switch for that in its own Settings, under Missed Connections Settings, called Include me in Missed Connections Drop. Turning it off means you stop receiving Drops and stop appearing in other people's, while your normal recommendations stay as they are.
That is a cleaner answer than cutting location access. Tinder needs location to show you people at all, so switching it off completely to avoid one feature breaks the whole app for you.
If your Drops look empty
If Missed Connections never seems to show you anyone, check the basics before changing any setting. The feature is offered only in select markets on Android and iOS, so it may not be available where you are. The Drop arrives once a week, on Sunday evening, at the top of your Explore screen, so look for it then rather than expecting something every day.
If you are in a market that has it and your access is set to While Using the App, you already have what the feature needs. A quiet week, with fewer places visited, may simply give it fewer people to show you.
What matters more than the setting
No location setting gets you dates. It only changes which people might see you, and when.
What happens next depends on your page and your conversations. A woman in your Drop still decides in seconds, mostly from your photos. Lead with a clear, recent photo of your face, then show yourself somewhere real, doing things you actually do.
And when you do match with someone from a Drop, use the thing you already share: you move through the same part of town. Keep the first message light, then suggest somewhere close, with a day and a reason. Being nearby makes a date easy to arrange. Asking is still your job.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.