What Is the Best Answer to What Brings You to Hinge?

The best answer is the true one. Hinge asks through a setting called Dating Intentions, and it offers six choices. A man who wants a relationship picks one of the long-term answers, and a man who is open to either picks the option that says so. Whatever you pick, a woman reads it at face value, so a false answer costs you the first date instead of saving it.

Dating Intentions lets you tell people what you are looking for. As reported by TechCrunch, the choices are life partner, long-term, long-term open to short-term, short-term open to long-term, short-term, and figuring out my dating goals.

You pick one. You can also choose whether it is visible, so the setting can sit quietly in the background or be one of the first things a woman reads about you.

Open Edit Profile in the app and look under My Virtues. Dating Intentions is there, along with the choice about whether to show it.

It takes a minute. Most men fill in the photos and the written answers and never open this section. That leaves a question unanswered that a woman might have wanted answered before she liked anything.

Your answer does a filtering job before either of you types a word. A woman who wants what you want sees it and relaxes. A woman who wants something different sees it and moves on. That second outcome is a good one, because you did not spend a week of conversation finding out.

The reverse is where men get hurt. Picking the serious answer to look like a better bet, while planning something casual, means your first date opens with a question you have to lie your way through. She asks what you are looking for, and the page already told her a story you do not live in.

Honest does not mean bad. Short-term is a real answer. It narrows the number of women who will like you, and the ones who do will not be surprised later.

Hinge+ and HingeX subscribers can filter their Discover feed by Dating Intentions. That makes the answer more than decoration. A woman who pays and sets her feed to the long-term options can narrow it to people who want what she wants. A man whose answer says short-term can be filtered out before she ever sees his photos.

You cannot tell who is filtering and who is not. So treat the setting as something that can work for you or against you. If you mean it, say it.

Figuring out my dating goals is on the list for a reason, and it is an honest answer for a man who truly has not decided. Know what it signals, though. A woman who knows exactly what she wants may read it as undecided and pass.

If that is you, say the same thing in your own words through your written answers, with one real detail about the life you have now. Keep it plain. A normal Sunday, described in a sentence, gives her a picture to react to, and that does more than any setting can.

Hinge describes itself as the dating app designed to be deleted, built to get people off the app and out on dates. The setting fits that idea. Say what you want, then let the rest of the page agree with it.

a dating coach's advice on online dating is to let your page do the heavy lifting, so that the conversation after a match gets easier. When your intention is already shown, the question of what you are looking for is one you are only confirming. Her first question to you becomes about your life instead of about whether you are serious.

The other pieces have to agree. Photos of a man who goes out and does things, answers that sound like one person, and an intention that fits all of it. When they disagree, she believes the photos.

Avoid changing the setting every week to chase likes. Each flip starts conversations from a position you will have to take back.

Some women will ask in the first conversation no matter what the page says. Answer in one plain sentence that matches the setting, then add a detail or turn the question around.

Something like "Something serious with the right person, and I like getting out of the house on weekends. What about you?" works. Ending on a question keeps her talking. Do not give a speech, and do not hedge with three maybes.

Pick the option that is true today. If you want a relationship, choose life partner or long-term. If you are open to either, choose the version that says so. Then make everything else she sees agree with it.