What Are the Best Facebook Dating Tips and Tricks?

There is no trick that beats a clear set of photos and a specific first message. What does help on Facebook Dating is using what the app knows about you both, writing to a photo instead of sending a bare like, and keeping your filters loose. Eight tips follow, and none of them needs a hack. Facebook publishes no success rate for men, so count your own matches and messages for two weeks and let the numbers decide.

On Facebook Dating you can like someone, or you can tap one of her photos and write a message before you send it. The second is almost always better. A bare like gives her nothing to react to, and a line about one photo gives her a reason to answer.

Pick a photo with something in it: a place, an activity, a joke. Write one or two sentences about that thing.

Facebook says its suggestions draw on your preferences and details, and on things like shared Groups, Events, your hometown and schools. That is an advantage a stranger on another app does not have.

If you share a running group or went to the same school, say so. "You are in the same trail group as me, did you do the long loop last month?" is easy to answer. It also tells her you are a real person with a real footprint, which is more than most openers manage.

Before a conversation starts you get one message to a suggested match. After that you cannot write again until she replies or likes you back. So do not spend it on "hey."

Keep it short, specific to her, and end on a question she can answer in a line. A long earnest paragraph, or a plan to send three follow-ups, runs against how the app works.

Do not reuse the photos from your Facebook page. They were chosen for relatives and old teammates and tend to be group shots, so she cannot tell which one is you.

Lead with a clear daylight shot of your face. Add a full-length photo, something you do, and one with friends. a dating coach's advice on photos on any app is the same: clear light, a clear look at your face, and a set that shows a real life. If Facebook asks for a video selfie to verify a photo, do it. It adds trust when you are asking a stranger to write back.

Every strong preference you set shrinks the pool. Save the strict ones for real dealbreakers. If your suggestions feel thin, widen the distance or the age range a little before you change anything else.

A wide filter has a cost, since a woman an hour away is a hard first date to arrange. Widen one step at a time and stop where you would honestly make the trip.

Your conversations live in the Matches tab inside Dating, not in Messenger. A man who looks for her in Messenger may think she has vanished.

Check the tab every day. A quick reply keeps a chat warm, and a gap of several days lets her interest cool.

My usual range is four to seven messages from the app to a phone number, with every message heading toward a plan. Suggest something simple and specific: a drink near one of you, on a named evening, with room for her to change it.

If she is open to a short call before you meet, take it. coach finds a call makes a woman more likely to show up and more likely to be glad when she does.

Friends of friends can be suggested unless you switch that off. That helps a decent man, because a mutual friend can speak for you. It also means your behavior can travel. Be quick and kind about taking a no.

• Do not send the same line to every woman. It reads as one, and on some apps an identical message sent repeatedly can get an account suspended.
• Do not like nearly everyone. My warning on every app is that it tends to make the app treat you as less attractive.
• Do not treat the app as the whole plan. Run it beside one other app, so that a quiet month on either does not become your whole dating life.

Use it every day for two weeks with a proper set of photos. Write down people you liked, conversations that started, numbers you got and dates you set.

Almost no replies means look at the photos and the first line. Chats that stall mean you ask too many questions or wait too long to suggest a drink. Dates but no second dates means the app is not the problem at all.

If the numbers stay flat while the photos are strong, drop it and spend the time on the app that gives you conversations where you live.