Omegle has closed, and the nearest thing on a real dating app is a short live video call with someone you have already matched with. Bumble lets you call inside the app after a match. Tinder's Speed Date offers short live one-to-one video sessions in select markets. Hinge says it removed calling. Random chat sites with strangers are a worse bet, because nothing screens who is on the other end.
What men miss about it
Omegle was instant. There was no profile to build and no waiting for a reply, and you were face to face with someone in seconds.
That speed is the part worth keeping. The part to leave behind is that nothing told you who the other person was, how old she was or what she wanted. On a dating app, a match means she looked at your page and said yes, which is a much better starting point.
Bumble: a call after you match
Bumble says you can make voice and video calls from inside the app once you match, with no need to swap phone numbers. A video icon and a phone icon appear at the top of the chat.
Use it as a short, live conversation that replaces a week of texting. Keep it brief, then say you would like to meet and suggest a day.
Tinder Speed Date: short live sessions
Tinder says its Face to Face video chat has been deprecated, so you cannot video chat with a match there. In select markets, it does offer Speed Date, which gives you short, live one-to-one video sessions with other users, found in the Events tab.
It is the closest thing we cover to the random feel, with real accounts. Tinder says the sessions are recorded and transcribed so its Trust and Safety team can review activity that may break its rules. It also disables screenshots and screen recordings. Treat it like a first meeting on camera.
Hinge: no calling
Hinge says it removed Voice and Video Calling, and it points people to Voice Notes and messaging. If you want to hear her voice before a first date, the call happens outside the app after the two of you trade numbers.
Events: random people, in the same room
If what you miss is meeting someone you did not choose in advance, a singles event is the real-life version. Thursday began as a dating app and now puts events first, with tickets to singles dinners, quizzes, classes and parties in cities around the world. Its homepage says less matching, more meeting.
You meet people in a room, and she can see how you stand and talk, which a screen does not show.
Why random chat sites are a worse bet
A random chat site with strangers is not a dating app. Nothing there tells you who she is, how old she is or whether she is real, and the conversation ends the moment either of you leaves.
Scams also move to wherever strangers talk. Never send money, identity documents or private photos to someone you have just met on camera. Be wary of anyone who rushes you onto another platform. A dating app with a match and a profile gives you more to judge before you spend a minute on it.
Make a short call work
Keep it ten minutes or less. Sit in daylight or a well-lit room with a plain background, and put your phone on a stand so it is not shaking.
Open with something specific from her page, ask one question, and listen. End while it is still good, and say you would like to meet. A call that finishes with a day and a place does the job a call is for.
Test one change
Pick two apps and use the same photos and lines on both. Try the call on one, and compare how many calls turn into dates against how many chats do. Keep what produces plans, and drop the rest.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.