Hinge's profile guide names "We'll instantly hit it off..." and "Which do we have in common" as popular Prompt Polls. When Hinge introduced polls, its announcement also listed "Instead of getting drinks, let's", "A dream home must include" and "Pick the best one." Each one gives her three of your answers to choose from, so the three answers you write matter more than the question you pick.
How a Prompt Poll works
A Prompt Poll is a prompt where you write three answers instead of one. Hinge describes it as a way to highlight three different things about yourself while starting a fun debate. A woman looking at your page can like or respond to the answer she is most excited about.
That last part is the point. A normal prompt asks her to react to one thing you said. A poll asks her to choose, and choosing is much easier than inventing a comment from nothing.
The popular questions, and what each is for
We'll instantly hit it off... Hinge says this one and the next help people discover shared interests to connect over. Your three answers describe the kind of woman you would click with, or three things you hope she is into. Make each one specific enough to be a real test. "If you have strong opinions about hot sauce" works better than "if you like food".
Which do we have in common? Three facts about you, and she picks the one that fits her too. Choose facts she might plausibly share and would enjoy admitting to: a guilty pleasure, a strange skill, a city you both might have lived in.
Instead of getting drinks, let's... Three plans for a first outing. This one does double duty. It shows you actually go out, and it hands her a plan she can say yes to. Keep the three options different in energy, like one active, one easy and one a little unusual.
A dream home must include... Three features of a house you would love. It is a light question, so use it for humor or for small details that say something about your life, like a room just for the record collection.
Pick the best one. The most open of the five. You name any three things for her to choose between: three sandwiches, three bad movies you love, three places you would book a trip tomorrow. It works best when the three are close enough that picking one feels like taking a side.
Writing the three answers
A poll lives or dies on its answers, not on its question.
Make all three real. If two options are throwaway jokes and one is the answer you want her to pick, she will notice, and the choice stops being fun.
Keep each answer short. She is reading three options at once, so every one should land at a glance.
Give each option its own flavor. Three answers that are basically the same, like three kinds of pizza, make the choice pointless, unless the argument over pizza is the joke.
Leave room for her to argue. The best polls have an option she will want to defend, and that defense is the start of your conversation.
Where polls go wrong
The most common failure is the safe answer. "Travel, food, music" gives her nothing to feel strongly about, so she picks nothing.
The second is the in-joke. An answer that only makes sense to your friends gives her nothing to grab onto.
The third is a sour tone. A poll whose answers are all complaints about dating invites her to agree that dating is miserable. That is not the mood you want her in when you meet.
A poll is not a bio
One poll shows range. It does not replace the written answers that tell her who you are. Use it alongside your other prompts, not instead of them.
Think of your page as a set. A poll adds a quick, playful choice. Your other prompts carry the specific stories and opinions that make her curious about you. If every answer on your page is a list of options, she gets plenty of choices and very little of you.
Picking yours
If you want plans, "Instead of getting drinks, let's" is the most useful of the five, because its answers are real invitations. If you want easy conversation, "Which do we have in common" is the simplest for her to answer. If you are funny in writing, "Pick the best one" gives you the most room to play.
Whichever you choose, write the three answers first and pick the question second. When the answers are good, almost any poll works.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.