Is a Plane a Good Place to Meet Women?

It can be, mostly because of time. If a woman you get along with is sitting next to you, a flight gives you hours of unhurried conversation that no bar could match. The problem is that you do not choose your neighbor, she may want to sleep or work, and she cannot leave if she is not interested. So a plane is a good place to meet a woman you happen to sit beside, a better one if you started talking at the gate, and a poor place to go looking for one.

a dating coach points out the upside plainly: if she ends up sitting next to you, you have her attention for a period of hours. You do not need to push or rush anything, because there is no closing time and no friend about to pull her away. A conversation that would take three meetings on the ground can happen in one flight.

You also share a small adventure. Delays, turbulence, a strange meal, a baby crying three rows back: all of it is common ground, and all of it gives you something to talk about.

Travel puts people in a different mood, too. A woman on her way to a vacation, or home to see family, is often more open than she is on a Tuesday at the office.

You do not control the seating. Most of the time the woman you noticed at the gate is twelve rows away, and the person beside you is a businessman with a laptop.

She may have plans for those hours. Plenty of people fly to sleep, catch up on work or watch three films in a row. Headphones on before takeoff say it clearly enough.

She cannot walk away. If the conversation is not working, she has to sit next to you until landing. That puts the extra duty on you to let it end easily, which is the opposite of how a lot of men behave.

The gate is often a better place to meet her than the cabin. People wait around, stand near the desk and complain about delays, and a conversation there has a natural end built in: boarding. If it goes well, you already know each other when you get on the plane, even if you are not seated together.

coach mentions that when a conversation in the terminal is going well, you can talk to the agent at the gate about seats. Only do this when she clearly wants to keep talking and you have asked her first. Switching seats to sit beside a woman who never asked for it is the fastest way to make the next three hours uncomfortable for both of you.

If you are seated next to her, say something while you are both settling in. My advice is to start right away, "because you want to establish that you're a friendly person rather than just a co-passenger as early as possible." A comment about the overhead bin, the delay or where she is headed is enough.

Then give her space. Talk for a few minutes, and if she is enjoying it, the conversation will come back by itself after the drinks cart or during descent. If her answers are short and her headphones go back in, let her have her flight.

Keep your voice down. The rows around you hear every word, and nobody wants to be the in-flight entertainment.

Before landing, make a plan. If she lives in the city you are flying to, or you both do, ask for her number and suggest something specific for that week. If she is visiting for a few days, suggest a drink while she is in town.

The baggage carousel is a good last moment. You are both waiting, the flight is over, and asking for her number there feels natural.

Most men will sit next to a woman they like on a plane a handful of times in their life. You cannot build a dating life around seat assignments.

What you can do is get comfortable enough starting conversations that when the chance comes, you take it without a second thought. coach describes it as one of the openings that comes up naturally once you can approach. You sit down, an attractive woman takes the next seat, and you simply talk to her.

The reason most men stay silent beside an attractive woman for five hours is the same reason they stay silent in a cafe: the first sentence feels like a big deal.

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