Download happn from the App Store or the Google Play Store and open it. To create an account you can use your cell phone number, your Google account, or your Apple ID if you are on an iPhone. happn does not use passwords, and Facebook login is no longer available, so the option you choose now is also how you log in from then on.
The three ways in
Once the app is installed, you pick one of three routes.
- Your cell phone number.
- Your Google account.
- Your Apple ID, if you are on an iPhone.
Any of them creates the account. Whichever you pick is the same one you use to log in again later, so there is no separate username to invent and no password to write down.
No password, so choose carefully
With no password on the account, the phone number or account you sign up with does the job a password does on most sites. It is your key.
That makes this the one decision in sign-up worth a moment of thought. Choose the login you are least likely to lose. Your everyday phone number is a better choice than a work phone you will hand back one day. Your main Google account is better than a spare you set up years ago and barely remember.
If you are on an iPhone and already use your Apple ID for everything, that is a sensible choice too. What matters is that you will still control it a year from now.
If you used Facebook before
Facebook login is no longer available on happn. If you once signed in that way, that route is closed now.
happn has a help page for people who cannot log in, and it is the right place to start. Read it before you try anything else, so you understand your options instead of guessing.
What happn is built on
happn is not a queue of strangers from across the city. It shows you people whose paths crossed yours during your day.
So the app does its best work for a man whose week takes him out of the house. The gym, a café, the office, the walk to lunch: every place you go adds people to what you see. A man who works from home and orders in will find the app quiet, and the fix for that is in his week rather than in his settings.
There is a real upside here. The women you see spend time near where you do, which makes a first date much easier to arrange later.
Get the first impression right
The account takes a minute. What women see when they come across you takes longer, and it matters far more.
a dating coach is blunt that your photos do most of the work on any dating app. Lead with a clear, recent photo of your face in good light. Then look hard at the weakest photo in your set, because My warning is that women judge you by your worst photo, not your best. If one of them is only all right, take it out. Four good photos beat the same four plus a weak one.
When you write about yourself, avoid sounding like every other man in your city. My point is that you are not only competing with her standards. You are competing with all the other men who also meet them. A few lines that some women love will do more for you than a safe paragraph that everybody skims past. Stay clear of anything rude or offensive, though. Being memorable is not the same as being reported.
Your first week
Open the app a few times a week rather than once in a long burst. My read on the apps is that they favor active members, and that short, regular sessions get better results than one marathon.
Be picky with your likes. coach has had students who liked almost everyone, and the apps treated them as less attractive for it. When they started liking far fewer women, their results got better.
When you get a Crush, write something short and specific. On happn you have an opener most apps cannot give you, which is the place where your paths crossed. A light line about the neighborhood you apparently share is easy to answer and has nothing to do with her looks. Then keep the chat moving toward a plan. coach usually gets a woman's number within four to seven messages, and a conversation with no plan in it tends to fade.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.