Open the Likes tab. If you have Majestic, it shows the members who have already liked you, including some you disliked earlier in Discover. Without Majestic you cannot see that list, but you do not need it to connect with anyone, because a member who likes you still turns up in your Discover feed as usual.
Where the list lives
Everything sits in the Likes tab. With Majestic, the people who have already liked you are gathered there in one place, so you can look through them and decide who to like back.
The list has one detail that surprises people. It includes members you already disliked in Discover. If you passed on someone in a hurry and she had liked you, she can show up here anyway, which gives you a second look at her.
You can connect without paying
This is the part most men miss when they see the paywall. The list is a shortcut, not a gate.
A woman who likes you is not hidden from you on the free plan. She still appears in your Discover feed like everyone else, and if you like her there, you connect. The only difference is that nobody tells you in advance that she already liked you.
So the free route works fine for most men. Keep using Discover, like the women you actually want to talk to, and the ones who already liked you will connect with you when you reach them.
What the list is really worth
What Majestic gives you here is time and certainty. Instead of scrolling and hoping, you see the women who have already said yes, and you can answer them first.
That matters most for a man who only gets short windows on the app. A woman who liked you yesterday is warm today. If she waits a week for you to find her in Discover, she has been talking to other men in the meantime.
a dating coach's advice on paid features is to test them rather than argue about them. If a feature is fairly cheap, try it, see whether it makes a real difference to how many dates you get, and drop it if it does not. He is also clear that paying is not needy. The apps are businesses, and they look after the people who pay them.
Do not like everyone on the list
When the list is full of women who already liked you, it is tempting to like all of them back and sort it out later. Resist that.
coach believes many apps treat a man who likes nearly everyone as less selective, and that being choosier can put better options in front of you. It also costs you in a simpler way. Every connection with a woman you are not interested in is a conversation you will either drag out or abandon.
So read before you tap. Look at her photos and what she wrote, and like her back only if you would genuinely want to take her out. That goes double for the women you disliked earlier. A second look is useful when you rushed. It is not a reason to talk yourself into someone you passed on for a good reason.
What to send once you connect
A like is the easiest opening you will get, and men waste it by connecting and then saying nothing, or by sending a bare "hey".
Pick one real thing from her page and react to it. Keep it short and give her something easy to answer. Then keep the conversation moving toward a plan. coach gets from first message to her number in four to seven messages, and he raises the idea of going out early, so that suggesting a day later feels natural rather than sudden.
He also names what a woman needs before she agrees to meet. She needs some attraction, enough comfort to know you are a real and normal person, and the sense that plans are already on the table. A woman who liked you first has already handed you the first part. Your job is the other two.
The same rules as on every dating app
Seeing who liked you changes where you start, not what happens next. The women on that list liked your photos and your words, so the page that earned them is worth keeping sharp.
If the list is long, your page is working and the job is conversation. If it is short or empty, paying to see it will not fix much. More likes come from a better first photo and a few lines that give a stranger something to reply to, and those cost nothing.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.