How to Reply to a Specific Message on Hinge

To reply to one particular message on Hinge, press and hold it, or swipe right on it, and your reply goes out with a quoted preview of what she said. You can do this with her most recent message, but not with a message that is itself a reply. Both of you also need the latest version of the app for the quote to show up.

1. Open the chat with your match.
2. Find the message you want to answer.
3. Press and hold it, or swipe right on it.
4. Type your reply and send it. Her message appears above yours as a quoted preview.

It takes a couple of seconds. The skill is knowing when it is worth doing.

There are two, and both explain why a quote sometimes seems not to work.

You can quote a match's most recent message, but you cannot quote a reply. If her last message was already a quoted reply to something of yours, you answer it the normal way.

And the quote only shows when both of you are on the latest version of the app. If she is behind on updates, your reply may reach her without the preview above it. So write every quoted reply so that it still makes sense on its own. If your whole message is "haha yes, that one", and the quote does not show, she has no idea what you mean.

When a quote will not attach, run through the rules. Is it her most recent message? Was it already a reply? Is your app up to date?

Quoting earns its place in a few specific situations.

She asked two things at once. Her last message asked where you grew up and whether you have been to the ramen place by her office. A quote makes it obvious which question you are answering, and saves a clumsy "to answer your second question".

The conversation has drifted. Two hours passed and you each sent a couple of messages that crossed. Quoting her line pulls the conversation back to the point you actually want to answer.

She made a joke you want to run with. Quoting her line and building on it shows you were paying attention, which is more attractive than a generic "lol".

Most of the time. A conversation where every single message quotes the one before reads like a questionnaire being filled in, line by line. It feels careful and a little stiff.

a dating coach's general rule for texting is to keep each message light and short, carrying one or maybe two ideas rather than your life story. A casual reply that follows naturally from her last message already does that. The quote is a tool for the odd moment of confusion, not a habit.

If you catch yourself wanting to quote her so you can answer point by point at length, that is a sign the reply is too long. My tip for a message that genuinely needs a lot of words is to say it out loud instead: send a voice message, or use the moment to suggest a quick call.

A reply is not just an answer. It is one step in getting from the app to an actual evening out.

coach builds his conversations on three things. She should find you fun, so tease a little and do not try to win her over with compliments. She should feel she knows you a bit, so share real details about your life when they fit. And plans should come up before you ask for them, so that when you do suggest a place and a time, it does not arrive out of nowhere.

A good reply often does two of those at once. She asks what you did this weekend. You answer with one real detail, add a small playful jab, and mention the bar you want to try. Now there is a plan in the conversation, and you did not have to announce it.

Answering every message the second it lands. coach warns against replying within seconds every time, and against long messages that pour more into the chat than she does. Both make you look more invested than she is.

Answering her question and stopping there. A reply with nothing in it for her to pick up leaves her to carry the conversation, and many women simply will not.

Letting the chat run for weeks. The point of the app is to get offline. A long, pleasant exchange with no plan in it tends to fade, and a single good date counts for more than any amount of chatting.