How to Meet Women When Traveling Solo

Traveling solo makes meeting girls easier, not harder. A man alone is more approachable than a man in a pack, he has an easy opener ready ("I just got here, what should I not miss?"), and nobody drags him away when a conversation is going well. Stay in a social hostel or a hotel with a lively bar, and join the group activities. Sit at the counter instead of a table, and talk to everyone, other travelers included. Many of the women you meet are traveling too, and plenty of them are traveling alone.

Four men standing in a circle look like a closed club. One man at the bar looks like someone you could include. Women traveling in pairs or small groups invite a solo traveler to join them far more often than they would invite a whole group of guys.

Solo also means nobody is watching. You do not have a friend rolling his eyes when you walk over, or pulling you toward the exit when you have just started talking to someone interesting. You set the pace for the night.

There is a lower cost to a no, too. Nobody on the trip knows you, and you will likely never see that bar again. Treat that as an inference rather than a rule. The usual rules of comfort and respect apply exactly as they do at home.

Solo travelers on Reddit agree on one thing more than any other: a social hostel is the best place to meet people. The hostel bar and the common room are where strangers start talking, and the staff often run events every night.

The catch is privacy. a dating coach has watched men book a hostel with a strict no guests rule, meet a woman, and have nowhere to take her. A private room in a social hostel gives you both things: the crowd downstairs and a door that closes. If you prefer a hotel, pick one with a bar that locals actually use, and read the guest policy before you pay.

Pub crawls, walking tours, cooking classes, day trips to a beach or a ruin. Each one puts you next to the same people for hours with a ready topic. Many hostels let people who are not staying there join their pub crawls, so your hotel does not lock you out.

Women traveling solo sign up for these for the same reason you do. A pub crawl is a whole evening of easy introductions, and by the third bar the group feels like friends.

You are new in town, and that is a gift. Ask a woman where you should eat tonight, which neighborhood is worth the walk, or whether the place next door is any good. People like being asked for advice, and travelers love comparing notes.

Then turn it toward her. Where is she from, how long is she here, what has been the best part so far? coach points out that women who have traveled alone often did things on the road they would never do at home. Travel stories tend to make a conversation warmer and more playful. Ask about the best trip she has ever taken and listen to the answer.

The people you meet on day one become your group by day two. Two guys from Australia, a woman from the walking tour and her friend are enough for a fun night out.

A mixed group makes the rest of the night easier. You walk into the next bar with people already laughing, and women at the next table are far more relaxed about you joining in. When you see someone from yesterday, greet her by name and invite her along.

A woman traveling solo has to be careful in a way you do not. Keep that in mind and she will feel it.

Meet somewhere public. Let her choose the second place if she wants to. Do not push to go back to your room on the first evening you meet her. Offer to walk her to a cab or back toward her hostel, and take a polite no without argument. Never turn up at a place she mentioned unless she invited you.

Most men find that the hard part of solo travel is the first walk over, and that hesitation comes with you on the plane. You can work on it before you book the flight. Cold Approach's Bootcamp puts you in the field in Miami or New York, approaching women by day and by night while a coach watches and tells you what to change after each one. Choose Group for three consecutive days at three students per coach or fewer. Or choose Private for one, two or three days with a coach to yourself. No experience is needed, and men who go blank in front of a stranger are the ones it was made for. What you practice there works the same way in a hostel bar on the other side of the world.